It's time to give this up...14 months later

[uknowhoo]

Good for you, Salina!

And thanx for coming back to let us know. As you know, we see alot of "I'm quitting CDing" threads around here. Invariably there will be at least one or two (or more) "oh you'll be back" or "nobody ever quits" responses. While I believe the majority of would-be quitters do return to CDing, I'm sure there are some who stick with it for a very long time/ for good. I'd expect most who are "successful" in this don't return to let us know (and many don't even post an "I'm quitting thread" to begin with).

In any case, thanx for checking in to let us know, and adding add a a little counterbalance to the "conventional wisdom" that no one ever quits. So far, so good for you, and best wishes to you going forward.

xoxo

Tammi

[Kelsy]

Good for you, Salina!

I'm sure there are some who stick with it for a very long time/ for good. I'd expect most who are "successful" in this don't return to let us know (and many don't even post an "I'm quitting thread" to begin with).

Tammi

[SIZE="3"]There are a few girls that have disappeared without goodbyes and "I'm quiting" posts! some were very active members. My question is this - Did they give it up? Did their life's circumstances force them into retirement?
I think anyone of us could quit the outward form of CDing but I think it would be rare that anyone could completely change that inner calling!

Kelsy[/SIZE]

[april lynn]

I hope it works for u I tryed but it did not work now I am 24/7

[Tammy298]

Congratulations, Salina!

If this is where you are in your life, it's a tough to do but as in many of our cases, family has to come first. I have been there, in a way myself. Right now, in my circumstances, my wife is fairly supportive of my CDing in the evening and when we're away on an occasional getaway trip.:D But my family comes first and even my work comes before CDing. That's the way I want it and feel it need to be for me.

Thanks Salina, for reminding me of priorities. Good luck in whereever life leads you!

[sterling12]

Well good luck to you, if it's what you want. Yes, conventional wisdom is that "nobody ever quits completely," and I suppose if you go until the day you die without doing CD or having a CD thought, you have truly stopped the practice.

I think most people here understand the concept of "absolutes." When we say no one has ever quit CD completely, we honestly don't know. And it would seem incredible out of perhaps millions who have tried to quit, that a few haven't actually achieved success. But simple observation and reading anecdotal stories, seems to put the unsuccess rate at around 99%.

One quick tip for anyone trying to quit. DON'T KEEP HANGING AROUND OR COMING BACK HERE! That would seem similar to a gambler who's trying to quit, hanging around at the race track! At AA meetings, they certainly discourage members who are working on their sobriety, from frequenting bars. Seems like it should be similar for anything related to CD.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[guardian832]

Tried to do the same thing many times over the years, but it never was good for the one most important reason.............The other part of who I was as a whole person was suffocating and life in general had a different outlook. I may have to watch what/when/where, but the femme part of my being is contributing to making me a better person. I gave her an identity of her own that at times makes it much easier to assimilate and cope with life. Best of luck to you. The 'family' is here whenever you7 need us.

[Nadia-Maria]

I think most people here understand the concept of "absolutes." When we say no one has ever quit CD completely, we honestly don't know. And it would seem incredible out of perhaps millions who have tried to quit, that a few haven't actually achieved success. But simple observation and reading anecdotal stories, seems to put the unsuccess rate at around 99%.

Hi Sterling12,

I share your opinion : "we honestly don't know".

Moreover, due to the drammatic diversity of people in the world, I'm convinced that it is quite possible for more than a few CDers to quit CD completely, maybe much more than 1%.

For instance - even if it is no proof just an anecdote - I was once the founder and charismatic leader of a scientific group, and after 15 years of total devotion to its cause, I decided to quit due to no other reason to get time to be able to do something different in my life.

Several members of the group could not believe I could ever quit for life a lifelong interest since I was aged 10 (hence initiated long before I created the group). They are still convinced I will come back one day or another, and they still consider me a sleeping member although I was very clear with them I was sure of no come back. For them it is just impossible someone to quit after having demonstrated such a whole dedication from being a teenager.
I quitted more than 20 years ago. Before my decision, it was another time, another way of thinking, another step in my life. I just think differently now, with other things in mind.

Due to the variety of CDing and CDers, I'm convinced it is possible for some people to quit CDing . Maybe it's more common that the conventional wisdom tells us.
High motivation can make people do things that appeared once impossible .

Hugs

Nadia

[Karen Francis]

This idea of denying yourself the emotional satisfaction received from cross dressing as some sort of "goal" to be admired puzzles me.

Putting ones lifes priorities in order, and placing Cding in the right order for one's own comfort level seems to be the goal that should be admired.

When you make those choices, you have to be brutally honest with yourself or you are bound to failure. Some folks here need to feel some level of pain/guilt/denial. I just don't need any of them.