I have progressed over the last year or so from the first option, to the last. I am now prepared to go dressed pretty much anywhere, anyhow. The limiting factor for me is my unenthusiastic partner who would not like me to go out in my little home town - so I don't. Anything else is pretty much up for grabs so I go shopping, pubbing, clubbing, restaurants, cinema, theatre, concerts, stately homes, country walks etc. I am often nervous but more aware that I look and feel good and nobody gives a hoot.
Mitch
