Originally Posted by
JoAnnDallas
I think the biggest thing that CDer that go out for the first time do that can cause an adverse effect is to act scared. Always looking around, hiding their face when someone looks at them, acting nervious.
I was like that the first couple of times out then I quickly noticed that most people don't take too much notice in you unless you draw their attention. Also a couple of sisters on this forum gave me some advice. The next time I went out dressed I used the advice. I was amazed how well it worked. not only did the fear and nervesness fade, but I gain confidence in my CDing. One thing that one sister told me was to not look away when someone looks at you. Look right back at them and then smile. 9 times out of 10 they will smile back and then go about their business. I have found that this can be a disarming affect, espciallly in a fleeting moment. Where someone looks at you in passing, you look back, and smile. They smile back and by this time you have passed them or they have passed you and they quickly forget your face and only remember the smile. Someone once told me that passing as a woman was 10% Dressing and 90% Attitude.
