I have two experiences to relate as far as coming out.

First deals with my ex-wife -- long ago and in a marriage far far away.For all the reasons that we all know about, I didn't tell her.In the months just prior to the wedding, I was miserable and knew that the marriage was totally wrong. For all the other reasons we know about, I didn't back out. As the marriage progressed, I became very very 'dead' inside. My dressing was limited to wearing some bikini panties that passed (somewhat) for men's no-fly bikini briefs. I still can recall the day that she questioned me about them -- 'Do you wear women's underwear?'. I of course lied.

Fast forward to trying to have a child some 12 months later. Nothing is working. One reason was, and I'll say it .. without crossdressing being able to, ah, er, perform as it were, well, lets just say that Ms Softee was down there. So we sought help (mind you this was prior to medicine that starts with the letter V that we get spam emails about). Net result was -- no sperm. Yep -- don't make many -- at times none.

Soon she began sleeping in another room (done without telling me why) and I became sadder and sadder -- and almost paralysing sadness. So, at the end of February 19xx I told her that I wanted a divorce. That was received well. We spent the next month under the same roof in an atmosphere that was surprisingly pleasant. We had some long talks about what went wrong. It was then that I told her my whole story. I was shocked to hear her be very understanding, although not to the degree of it possible having been acceptable as a part of the marriage. One reason she was understanding was that she had many lesbian friends. Side note - she is now in a lesbian relation and they have an adopted child. Anyway -- one key thing she said was 'This explains a lot.'

Years pass -- and I meet the woman I will love forever. I am so head over heels in love with her, that I tell her.

see my intro in the intro bits:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ad.php?t=83168
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ad.php?t=83322

The result -- Total acceptance. Her desire for me is that I be happier than I ever have been before. Our marriage has been like a rosebud unfolding and blossoming. Its as if some new a beautiful aspect appears every day -- like us going to buy makeup together, trying on bras together in Wal*Mart, making love both en-femme (or her en-homme).

And now, through her encouragement, I've re-engaged the community and come out here as it were, after years of being dead inside.

The love of a good and totally accepting woman makes life all the better. Pardon me for saying this -- but we are both religious and feel that we are joined by the power of God and the force of the Holy Spirit -- we were meant to find each other. Making me happy makes her happy, and I wake up every day saying what can I do make my wife happy. I will defend her to the death, and if anyone intends to harm her, they have to get through me first!

Guess I got off track there -- sorry

Huggles

Toni-Lynn