Hi Jersey. First of all, I think you are showing great courage and compassion in coming here to find out more about our community. I hope when you have had a chance to reflect upon the knowledge you have just acquired in the last 48 hours that you will be able to see your way clear to explore this with your husband. Of course, he needs to step up to the plate and start communicating with you. If you think he needs a push, send him here :D. Good communication is the cornerstone of any marriage, with or without trans-gender issues in the mix.
You did hit upon a truth in your original post in that one of the reasons he may be reluctant to talk about it is that he doesn't understand it himself and has been condition to see variances in gender as a perversion. Sadly, many in our society see things that way. If there is anything we can do to help either of you, please let us know.
