Cathy, I feel so sad for you and understand how you feel. I went through the same thing years ago as you are experiencing now. When I told my wife that I was a cd she could not accept it either. We stayed together for the sake of our nine year old son but the marriage was doomed. We devorced years later and both of us are much happier now. I can understand what you are going through at this time and wish the best for you. Being the way we are does create problems for some of us and we must deal with it the best way that we can. Good luck to you.