I have never been submissive. I am the kind of person that will accept a leadership role when no one else wants it and will voice my opinions whether they are popular or not. I'm not overbearing or agressive though. I get along with almost everyone. Sexually I am mostly dominant although I do like to be submissive at times. My wife is mostly submissive, so it works out for us. I do enjoy it when she takes control. It's a refreshing experience for both of us.