Where are you on the continuum?

[erickka]

-3 for me. I live 95% as male, but I still have a tad of that womanly compassion all the time, so I can't honestly go any more to the male side. Sometimes, I would love to be a +5, but that wouldn't truly represent who I really am.

[Sarah...]

+3 psychologically, -2 physically. Which will probably round out to +4i when someone is able to apply a 3D imaginary number continuum to human gender and sexuality.

Sarah...

[Ásfríðr]

+3 psychologically, -2 physically. Which will probably round out to +4i when someone is able to apply a 3D imaginary number continuum to human gender and sexuality.

Sarah...

mmm yeah, think theres a really strange attractor at work here?

[docrobbysherry]

Grrr! I hate this insistence on a "continuum".

There is no 2 dimensional sliding scale of sexuality in my mind.

A continuum implies a transition from "pure" male to "pure" female, a yes or no and shades of gray in between.

It's just not like that for me, and I don't feel I fit anywhere in an either/or world.

I tried to explain a 3 dimensional concept of sexuality many months ago,and quite honestly, I'm too lazy to go look for that post. It seemed to be ignored anyway,so I'll just give up on trying to push another hazily worded argument in that direction.

We don't live in a 2 dimensional world, we live in a much more complicated world than that. And trying to make us squeeze the incredible complexity of sexuality into a formula like that does a great disservice to our souls. There's a great disconnect somewhere in trying to fit a spiritual feeling into a rational theory.

Somebody here a while ago said that she was a square peg in a round world. Why do I feel like a 5 sided peg in a world made of cubes?

My conscious mind thinks I'm mostly male. And would have me do only "male" activities.
However, my CD activities, (which seem to be constantly on the rise), appear to be controlled by my subconscious mind.
And I'm not sure what it considers me. Or even gives a rat's ass about what my consious mind thinks or prefers!

[Sedona]

I'd brought it up before, but it bears repeating. How is ANYBODY on this site putting down a a -5??? I see there are two so far.

There isn't a -6 as an option, so a -5 is a male who does not identify as a MtF in ANY way. Unless you are a non-CDing academic or something, and are strictly here for research, you could not be a -5.

I know, I know, "let folks identify with what they want to," but this seems like a no-brainer, or am I missing something?

[Veronica 1]

I went with mostly female because, as I explore and discover myself, I find that my whole being and emotions are developing in a more feminine way.

[BobbieAnne]

I voted a +4. I dress everyday, all day andtry to live totally as a woman. My minds eye thinks as a woman so I feel that way. +4

[Claire3]

Dressed,so went for 2+,it really fluctuates throughout the day depending on what im doing or where i iam.2+ i believe is a fair compromise

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Iwent with a +4 I dress every day full day and like female things and usally act like a female

[Nicki B]

I'd brought it up before, but it bears repeating. How is ANYBODY on this site putting down a a -5???

On this site, or in this forum? In case you hadn't noticed, there are many members who identify, and wish to be regarded, as men?

am I missing something?

Perhaps you are? Maybe you could just accept not everyone is wired the way you are and not worry about it. We don't have to understand everything..

[CD Susan]

I am a +4, almost all female, I have always thought that I was born in the wrong body. I wish to be 100% female but know that will never happen. Maybe in my next life if there is such a thing.

[susan2010]

I really consider myself almost all male in that I have no interest in dressing 24/7 or in transitioning or sex with other males. That being said, it's hard to give myself a 4 when I'm sitting here wearing a bra and petticoat.
Susan1974

[Sedona]

On this site, or in this forum? In case you hadn't noticed, there are many members who identify, and wish to be regarded, as men?

am I missing something?[/QUOTE]

Perhaps you are? Maybe you could just accept not everyone is wired the way you are and not worry about it. We don't have to understand everything..[/QUOTE]

I hear you, I very much know that folks are wired differently, but you're not understanding my point. It's just that being a member and active participant in a MtF site, and identifying 100% as "male" (hence a -5 rating), is an oxymoron, IMO.

[Sandra Dunn]

Depending on what day it is, school day is male, if it's date night male and all others it's female. Still even in the so called boy mode I am in female clothing. I do not own any tidy whities. My clothes closets one for girl clothes is three times bigger then the other one and it has work clothes in it.

[SweetCaroline]

I think of myself as sexually-male. but genderwise-female. I still present my self in day to day life as a man, but I see myself becoming more female in my presitation very soon--once I get past family and work that is.

So I voted 0, even tho parts of my life are more male, and other parts are more female.

[Michaela]

I am clearly a +3... it is who I am... my soul is a +3 in a very clear and sincere way.

I may at times hold the appearance of a -3 or 4... but that doesnt affect who I truely am, which is a confident independent powerful woman... nothing could take that away from me, even my own lack of self confidence or if I had a big bushy beard and hairy leggs

if I am not a woman, then I am not a human and therefor must go back to mars immediately!

I'd brought it up before, but it bears repeating. How is ANYBODY on this site putting down a a -5??? I see there are two so far.

I know that this is the M2F section of the forum, but perhaps some of the F2M's have come by and had a vote... we do have a few handsome men around here :p

other thought is people who feel that their dressing has no standing on their place in gender roles outside of the bedroom.

a final example is what if they voted that way because they feel disconnected from their feminine self right now? perhaps they are voting this way in order to share (even if it is anonymously) that they arent feeling all so secure right now.

there are many reasons that a person on this forum could perhaps identify as super-dooper manly, and while to us that may seem a bit odd, that may just be where they see theirselves right now in their lives, even if they do wear a bra and panties from time to time :p

[Byllie]

Wow, such interesting responses, and many of them got me to thinking; what if we've got this whole gender thing wrong?

Here's my thinking. Instead of seeing male and female genders as being opposite ends of a continuum, perhaps they represents two separate orthogonal scales. We each have a certain amount of male and female gender attributes. This would explain how some folks feel truly blended while others tend to go back and forth.

Any thoughts?

[Sedona]

Michaela,

Understood. I suppose that many of us have a lot of reasons for our own personal definitions, even if it might not make complete sense at times.

Cheers,

[Michaela]

Wow, such interesting responses, and many of them got me to thinking; what if we've got this whole gender thing wrong?

Here's my thinking. Instead of seeing male and female genders as being opposite ends of a continuum, perhaps they represents two separate orthogonal scales. We each have a certain amount of male and female gender attributes. This would explain how some folks feel truly blended while others tend to go back and forth.

Any thoughts?

I think you hit the nail on the head there! it is definately something where you can have alot of both of very little of either or more of one than the other...

Michaela,

Understood. I suppose that many of us have a lot of reasons for our own personal definitions, even if it might not make complete sense at times.

Cheers,

Without a doubt hun

[katrinacd]

I really consider myself almost all male in that I have no interest in dressing 24/7 or in transitioning or sex with other males. That being said, it's hard to give myself a 4 when I'm sitting here wearing a bra and petticoat.
Susan1974

Susan, your response cracked me up. I have a strong masculine side and don't believe I think at all like a woman. My CDing is definitely more than a sexual thing but there's no doubt the eroticism is the driving force for me rather than trying to achieve a feminine state of mind. Like you, though, I have a hard time giving myself any more than a -2 when I tremble at the thought of slipping on my maid's dress and a pair of pumps.

[Empress Lainie]

Gee I missed this one before.

Before my epiphany and overnight transition, I actually thought I was at about +1 to _1. I even for a few weeks thought I was bi-gendered and could live either way. I WAS WRONG.

As time has passed now in my 14th month of 24/7 my self picture is now all female (ignoring the parts I can't change).

[rustynail]

I know I am male and love sex with women, but I seem to have a strong "feminine side" which I must be in touch with I suppose

[Nadia-Maria]

A very interesting poll, and a not so easy question to answer !!
This is an area, where the quoting of the question has very much incidence on the answer.

I feel all like being a TGirl, nevertheless I had to answer being "mostly male"....
It's very confusing !

The current results of this poll clearly show the difficulty to answer : there is a DOUBLE MAXIMUM instead of only one, as shown when the question is easy to answer.

That doesn't mean the question was not pertinent. I mean just the opposite.

Kisses

Nadia

[Mona]

I took a silly little test that said I was 0 so that's what I marked but it varies day to day and throughout the day, some days are much more male and some are very female. I have to climb a tree to get to the 3rd dimension!

[MWCMDarlene]

I voted +4. My position in the community and my profession won't allow for any less.