Parents

[CaptLex]

I think, that however you decide to come out, you should wear YOUR clothes. The clothes you feel good in.

I agree. I think you should wear what you're comfortable wearing and Mom (or anyone else) will either like it or not, but I believe it's a mistake to dress for anyone else. Just my dos centavos, of course.

As for the right time to come out. Maybe you can tell her ahead of time that there's something you want to talk to her about on this visit and then you can kind of see what the right time would be once you get there based on how things are going. But I think it's a good idea to give her a little warning that there's something you need to tell her.

That kind of helped me when I came out to a group of friends. I had told one of them that I had something I needed to tell the group when I would be seeing them that evening for dinner. When I got there I couldn't figure out how to bring up the subject and decided not to say anything after all, but the one I had mentioned it to put me on the spot by announcing that I had something to say to them all and then I had no choice but to do it.

Once you tell Mom there's something to discuss, part of the job is done - the rest of it is putting it into words and answering questions. Good luck, dude. I know it's been causing some anxiety for you, so I think it's time.