Boundaries are cool and necessary. Some observations to think about...
1. If a crossdresser feels guilty and ashamed of dressing, boundaries can help lift dressing up from the level of shame and fetish. For example, if the SO gets to approve what the CD is wearing, the CD can move to a more passable "G-rated" daytime look and can begin to feel "my SO approves of my dressing!" which is a very positive experience.
2. Boundaries can have unexpected consequences. If the SO never goes out with the CD dressed, it opens the door for the CD to date others. The opposite boundary, the CD is not allowed to go out in the evening without the SO, challenges the couple to include CDing in their own relationship and go places they will both enjoy.
3. Money boundaries are helpful. If the CD is not allowed more spending money than the SO, it keeps the CD from overspending.
4. Unworkable boundaries need to be renegotiated.
5. As trust levels change, so do boundaries. More trust leads to more relaxed boundaries.
Blessings,
Rikki
