I agree with what everyone else has said. I will only add that there are some similarities with my story.
I made the effort to fix my hubby up and myself, we were out of town. It was a lot of stress for me. It was a burden for me to make him presentable as a "girl". It took away from my expirence of making myself feel special and getting ready for our "date". I had anxiety about anyone seeing us leaving the hotel, not a good feeling to start with. After all of that effort, when we got to the club, which we had checked out previously and did see other "girls" socializing, he refused to get out of the car. Let me tell you I was pissed! All that effort wasted. This happened on several ocassions. It left me with negative feelings and I ended up not taking him out like that. I was always the driving force behind trying to understand this and tried to be supportive. It just never went in both directions. He neither tried to understand nor did he give back when I needed him. He just kept the pressure up on me participating in his crossdressing. It got very old and remained a burden for me.
The key word here is burden. If your wife is overwhelmed with other issues in her life, your crossdressing needs are just another burden to her and low on her list of important things to deal with. If you keep pushing it you will stand the risk of turning her off to cd'ing for ever.
Man up for a while, be her partner and support her. When all of the issues are resolved then she will likely feel more like being there for you.
Kitty
