Something I don't understand

[Sheila]

Btw, to the ggs who ended up getting more than they bargained for, I totally sympathize with you. I doubly commend the ones who are willing to make compromises in he face of an act of dishonesty. All I want to do is submit my flipside advocations to peer review.

I find it interseting that you do not view GG's as peers

[subaru_forster]

I find it interseting that you do not view GG's as peers

Ok, please explain to me which part of what I said was dismissive to GG input so I can apologize for it immediately. All I meant was that I wanted to see how my feelings stood up to everyone's insight, not to offend anyone.

[Sheila]

Btw, to the ggs who ended up getting more than they bargained for, I totally sympathize with you. I doubly commend the ones who are willing to make compromises in he face of an act of dishonesty. All I want to do is submit my flipside advocations to peer review..

There implies that GG's are not your peers, you sympathise with us but want to "submit your flipside advocations to peer review" . iF I READ IT WRONG I APAOLOGIZE

[subaru_forster]

oops. If how you highlighted it is how your mind picked it up, I can see how it would look like I meant to separate GGs from peers. I didn't mean that at all, rather I wanted to separate "peer review" from just tossing unpoppular ideas to stir a reaction. I'm sorry that I didn't say it in a clearer way. (I have this same communication problem at times IRL

[SoJill]

Okay, he didn't tell me at first, I find that he, himself had his own issues with coming to terms with his own identity, feelings, crossdressing and purging. He has admitted that he crossdresses. Yes, it could be deemed dishonest, I was shocked to say the least when I found out after 7 years of marriage.
But the fact that he did tell me says volumes on how we have evolved as a couple! If we trully love one another, why would't either one of us make a compromise for the other. He is a non smoker, he hates my smoking, but he still loves me. Sometimes in the world of compromises, the answer could be "no". That is the risk we all take.
Yes, I got more than I bargained for, but I need no sympathy.
As for you trying to get flipside advocation to peer review: you lost me on that one. I agree, that sometimes what we type, how we feel at the moment, can get a total different response than what we were looking for. I blame it on this world of typing, I can't see your facial expressions, can't hear your tone of voice and can't get an immediate response to what you are trying to get accross for me/others to answer. So, you may want to rephrase the question, rewrite what it is that you are trying to get an answer to. I am simply responding to words that are typed.