I found this article eerily reflected my own opinions and thoughts. For myself it describes much of how it all came about for me - despite being girly as a small kid, puberty and the onset of sexuality definately cinched matters.Originally Posted by curse within
[From the article]
"Well, the party line in the CD community is that cross dressing is healthy and even therapeutic. It is practiced by ultra-sensitive men who are lucky enough to possess "feminine" souls. CDs dress because it gives their inward female psyches an outward manifestation. Under this view, all problems connected with cross dressing stem from social intolerance. Society is bigoted. If the world were more accepting of human differences and distinctions, and less caught up in arbitrary and nonsensical gender roles, cross dressers wouldn't have any problems at all.
I don't buy the party line and that makes me a heretic."
I would have to say I agree with that last line. Of course, there is an entire spectrum of gender, but for many we are just locked in a cycle of habitual sensual feelings we can't escape.
We could argue over these points for a millenia and we'll never have a definitive answer because the experience is different for everyone. If you want to know about the dark sides of crossdressing, its origins/causes, its cures, look to yourself. Review your own past and explore your memories with an outsiders eyes. I know that for myself crossdressing is mostly sexual, and I could hardly care less because its just how circumstances worked out for me. It is a dark, sordid thing, and to some level a perversion, but its in the past, and presently I don't take it to obsessive levels.
And try to avoid falling back on the 'its genetic I can't help it' excuse - as humans with the gift of free will we are able to decide our own fate - if you crossdress then that is your own choice.
