She just wouldn't understand

[tammie]

Hi Everyone; If U know this lady somewhat then do this.

Go by and see her again. Waht day and time was it when it was so slow?

Just before Chrismas it may be different dynamics of shopping patterns tho.

When it is a slow time hopefully either early or at noon call and ask her if U can bring her something, maybe a breakfast burrito or a coke or a ice cream bar or a burger or sub.

When U R there ask her what she would have done if U had agreed to try on a wedding gown?

If she says she would have let U, then say "great I want to try one on, but let me go home and get my camera"!

If she says "I knew U wouldn't" then say well now I do want to try one on, but let me go home and get my camera".

Then go get a camera and have on some lingerie already and tell her U wanted to "feel the whole experience".

If she asks where U got the lingerie, say I borrowed it from a friend, that is why I have to get a picture.

I know how unfortunate it is to miss an opportunity dear.

Yrs ago I was just going to pop in to the Safeway to pickup an
Rx and was wearing a great new Wacoal underwire lacecup minimizer (42C 85122) that had come in the mail that day.

I didn't want to take it off it felt so great, so I just pulled a polo shirt on over it and walked out the door.

I was halfway to the back of the store when a woman starring at me stopped me and in a stage whisper said "U look great in that bra".

I was so shocked and taken aback that I just mumbled "thanks" and walked past her.

Later I realized I missed a wonderful opportunity to meet a woman what liked a man in a bra!

And when I got home and looked in the mirror I realized I had perfectly round breasts! I recommend Wacoal bras by the way.

[Celeste]

O.K. You have to go back and tell her you've thought it over and you're wondering why she brought it up.Test the waters with a few questions to see how she feels about it.If you get positive answers and if she would be willing to help ,then tell her you want to try.Put the ball back in her court,make it seem like its her idea.Tell her, "I'm doing this because I like you,you asked me and I trust you'll keep it between us only" .I would have her lock the shop up first.You should be able to tell how serious she is.

[Sammy777]

in high school there were these two sisters who talked me into letting them dress me up in as a girl, and then it became a regular thing.

Lucky you!

O.K. You have to go back and tell her you've thought it over and you're wondering why she brought it up.Test the waters with a few questions to see how she feels about it.

She may not had thought of it at all, but Ashley did say She was the one to open up the topic of crossdressers, not her friend working there. So maybe Ashley's friend was fishing for a response.
Either way, I doubt Ashley's friend would have been trying to set her up just to respond to her in a bad way.
I don't think her response would have been, ewwwwwww your a creepy crossdresser toooooo if Ashley would have said Yes.

When U R there ask her what she would have done if U had agreed to try on a wedding gown?
If she says she would have let U, then say "great I want to try one on, but let me go home and get my camera"!
If she says "I knew U wouldn't" then say well now I do want to try one on, but let me go home and get my camera".
Then go get a camera and have on some lingerie already and tell her U wanted to "feel the whole experience".

I agree except for two things.
1) Already have the camera in your car, but don't mention it.
I am sure the "kodak moment" thought will come to her all by herself.
That is when you mention, Oh I keep my camera in my glovebox. Do you own a digital camera?

2) I would not run home to get or be dressed in any female undergarmets for when/if you visit her again.
There can always be time for that later on,

If your going to do that, then you might as well go there already dressed in them & tell her flat out you CD & regret not just telling her that the first time around, and if she isn't offended by you, then ask to try on everything!

So, in short Ashley, pick the best way you feel comfy with & get back in there.

[Sally2005]

Next time she wants you to visit, joking to her, ask her where the wedding dresses are and then put one on just to see her reaction! If it doesn't go over well, tell her it was her idea and you were just having some fun at her expense because you knew it would creep her out. If it goes well, maybe she will take the lead and suggest doing more (makeup ...) ...you can then just say you always wanted to try it just for fun.

[CD Susan]

There is no way I would have said no to her request to try on the dress. I think that she suspects that you are a cd and she expected you to say yes. If you get the chance again go for it.

[Genifer Teal]

You missed a great opportunity. This may have been a set up for you benefit from the beginning. When she mentioned the old and creepy CDers, I would have asked "am I old and creepy?" to get her response. You could still have played it either way depending if she was for or against the idea.

Gen

[XdresserAshley]

Thank you all of you on your input, and if you have more I'd love to hear it. But, I will go back there soon and try to shove it into the open a bit more while keeping things cool and I'll let everyone know how it goes!

Ashley

[sometimes_miss]

well first of all you could have told her that all cross dressers are not "creepy" and i would have said yes to trying on the wedding dress to prove that not all cross dressers are creepy looking... and come on now do you relay want to have a friend like that!!!!

I think that it could become a problem if you don't have a lot of friends to begin with. Unless you want to be out to the world, there's really no way to know who is CD friendly and who isn't, unless we carefully ask to find out without actually outing ourselves. And just because someone is CD friendly, doesn't mean that you want to be friends with them anyway. Crossdressing is not the be all and end all of who we are; But it is the thing that society decides will define us more than anything else. You could be a war hero, save a village, but if you CD then you are 'the crossdresser'. It becomes the major descriptor of you for a whole lot of people, most of whom don't like crossdressers. Simple example: Dennis Rodman was an all star how many times? How many championship rings does he have? Can anyone easily answer? And yet, he's one of us! But EVERYONE knows he's a crossdresser.

Not all of us want to be 'out'. We don't all crave the title 'crossdresser'. We don't all have an overwhelming desire to walk down the public streets trying to pass as a woman, and so are not all 'working up our courage' to be 'out'. Some of us just want to be accepted as the part time Cd'er that we are, and just really want a woman (or man, if you're gay) that will love and accept us as we are, whether we are in a dress or a suit. Like so many of us here, I would looooooove a wedding gown; but I don't think I'd jeopardize a long friendship by forcing someone to accept or reject me based on one thing I do that they may find very upsetting. But that's just me.
(answers to above: Twice, and five, two with the pistons, three with the bulls, to the best of my recollection).