Specific boundaries

[suchacutie]

Boundaries? oh my.

I hope it's called a relationship. You put boundaries on her, don't you, if you want to call them that?

I prefer to look at a relationship as a set of joint agreements. Those agreements don't have to be static, but they should be mutual and entered into in a loving environment.

For example: I'm sure that my wife would not be pleased if I went out partying by myself as Tina. However, I'm not sure either of us would be happy if the other wanted to go out partying by ourselves presenting any gender! The point would be that we want to go out together! If she's not comfortable going out with Tina, for whatever reason, why would I want to force that upon her? She's my wife and my loving companion. Conversely, if I were unhappy about a certain issue, she would respect my rights.

Let's face it, presenting a different gender MTF is not exactly mainstream, and has many possible negative ramifications. We're not exactly talking about what color to paint the house, after all? Not everyone is totally open-minded about our "hobby".

Be calm, be loving, and work toward helping each other.

good luck!

tina

[Sheila]

Well Honestly.....Would you like for your wife to STOP shaving???

The real question is, would she stop if he asked her to, or would she tell him it's her body and she'll do what she damned well pleases with it?

Fair's fair.

That is true.....So the question goes even further......if she did stop shaving would he divorce her?

The replies to CW question, really ticks us many of us GG's off ..................... Get Real You Peeps ......... this is not about what a gg does with her body .. it's about you trying to justify pushing bounderies that have been made and agrees on ................ look nobody wants anybody to divorce over cding, but unless you were titally up front about your activities from the get go you have no real justification for grumbling about your partners needs to have some say in how you present toher/him, and if you cannot keep within them then expect flack ............ I know CDing is not a hobby ir is a need to express who you are inside ....... at the end of the day you manage to dress according to the code required for work, other hibbies like golf, hockeyy, rugby, football whatever, so why bitch about accomadating your partner FGS Selfish, inconsiderate or what :Angry3::Angry3::Angry3: ...... and it's a long time since I ranted about anything like this ....... if you don't believe me go check my posts :D

[Tamara Croft]

FGS Selfish, inconsiderate or what

Careful now.. I said that in another thread... you'll get yourself bitch slapped...

[Sheila]

Careful now.. I said that in another thread... you'll get yourself bitch slapped...

let em try

[Tamara Croft]

let em try

LOL... shall I tell them you're scarier than Gordon Ramsay? oooer...

[CharlotteW]

Quite simply, I must remain a husband and be able to function like one. It can't affect the children. It can't be embarrassing(sp?).

I have had a 5 day break from wearing anything 'naughty'. Today I am wearing stockings, suspenders, pink knickers under my male attire, and dolly shoes (very feminine flats. UK fashion).
Funny thing is, when I have a break for a few days, my wife suggests crazy ideas like sending me shopping, all dressed up. I know that she likes me in femme clothing as it changes my attitude, for the better. I'm quickly finding a good balance between feminine and masculine behaviour. Today I suggested my black 2.5-3" heels were perhaps a little too conservative for wearing with a leather skirt. She agreed and suggested I look for something a little sexier. I have changed this 'hobby' into a fun thing. It's not about crossdressing and allowing my femme side to emerge, it's all about FUN.

[Jonianne]

Joanne, always remember the one who has gone through life's journey with you. Externals don't matter squat compared to the relationship you have with the love of your life. You never know how much longer life allows you to travel together. IMHO a relationship in which you sacrifice a little bit and are loved and accepted, is so much better than being alone and having all the material and external stuff you want.

In all our searching, the only thing that makes the emptyness bearable, is each other.

BTW the boundries we have worked out in our relationship include not dressing in front of the kids, letting her know before I dress in front of her, not shaving arms and chest and even though she has said she would be ok if I shaved my legs on occasion, I still have never shaved them in my life and don't know that I ever will. So its going out dressed in the cooler months with long sleeves, skirts and opaque tights for me. In return she sees to it that I have opportunity to go out (she says Joni needs to feel the sun on her face) and we have enjoyed the times I have had going out dressed together with her.

[Tasha McIntyre]

My boundaries, or more specifically mutually agreed upon aggreements with the wife are pretty simple.

Ske knows and kind of accepts, but doesn't want to see Tash at all.
Don't alert the neighbours or the kids. (Read that as don't embarrass her)
Be careful when shopping.

Works for me!
Cheers

Tash

[Mercedes]

My wife and I have worked up a compromise in that I can sleep in something three set nights a week so she knows when it is going to happen. And once a week I can get dressed. Now this is where we got to after many years of not talking about it. After we talked what I found from my wife is that she was always on edge never knowing if I was going to be dressed or not. This made her uncorfortable and after 17 years she has not got more accepting but has also not let it interfere with me dressing as long as she can know what to expect and then it is easier to deal with.

It works for us and since for me, dressing is a relatively small part of my life compared to work, family and friends, I am usually satisfied, occasionally surprised and sometimes frustrated.

Mercedes XOXOXO