asserting the right to appear as one wishes

[sandra-leigh]

IMO while he may have been trying to "joke", "tease" or otherwise cajole you in what he perceived as "good-natured" way, he was overtly establishing his view as the "correct" one. Which is why HR steps in and says that is a no-no.

Quite right -- though I might have said the word "covertly" instead of "overtly".


By the way, I did go yesterday (Thursday) and get my bangs cut out of my eyes. Which was on my own schedule, for my own reason (hair in my eyes was getting to be a nuisance); the rest of my hair was left long, with the trimming at the back restricted to making the length more consistent. The very back is still about an inch below the shoulder blades.