I guess that I am Bi..
I LOVE looking at TG piccies.. I sometimes even get hot over TGs...
I Love Women!! In both types GG & TG!!
I think that my wife knows too.. She found a picture the other day, of a ******* xx star that I kinda like, And she let me know about it... Wife is still cool with me too! She might start experimenting with my Fem self here soon! I hope. She knows for Sure that I crossdress! She still loves me!
She said so 5 times today.
Last edited by Melora; 03-02-2009 at 06:22 AM.
I've read a lot of posts here where so many are trying to figure out if their dressing makes them gay.
Sadly, the public perception seems to echo that response, and all too loud and clear. Maybe some of you are caught up in too many other's uninformed opinions.
Myself and many more of us on here started dressing before puberty, long before we even knew what "gay" was.
Hell, I didn't even know what sex was the first time I slipped on a pair of stockings.
What motivated me to do it, I do not know. I only know that when I did it, it felt right and I continued to do it for the next 50 plus years whenever the opportunity presented itself.
Years later, we're now asking if we're gay.
Not me.
And I'm okay with all of it.
I never felt I was odd or different for pursuing it.
Any thoughts?
Well there's nothing wrong with being gay... I have a gay family member... But I'm not gay... I'm just pretty!
I have always known that I was just a little weird. I have never thought of myself as gay.
Nah, I do not perceive myself as a human, let alone a gay... I am just "something".
Jolan Tru
This transexual woman
The first question I remember even my son asking when I told him I would live as a woman the rest of my life was:
ARE YOU GAY?
I think it is the most common question asked us.
I said long before I knew I was a woman, that I was a lesbian. Men and boys always were something I had no use for either individually (except for one I considered my brother) or as a class.
Howsomever, as my journey has progressed, over the last two years, I am looking at men differently now, so I must confess that I think I am becoming bi-sexual.
BUT: BIG BUT: that does not make me GAY, it makes me a heterosexual WOMAN!
(Of course you have to work with the equipment you have regardless!)
[SIZE=2]Ascended Ancient[/SIZE]
Sexual preference and CDing have very little to do with one another. Sadly, due to society and upbringing, the lines between the two often become blurred.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
I too started dressing quite young and never thought about anything until later in life. I went through a period that I thought I had to be gay because I like to wear womens clothes. I started looking around the internet and found that wasn't the case at all. I am married to a wonderful woman(35 yrs. now) and she helps me dress and shop. We had many discussions about my dressing and we still talk about it. She is over her fear of me being gay and leaving her(somewhat). I think a lot of CD'ers go through this phase.
I don't think I have ever had a gay thought in my life. in fact when I confessed my lifelong crossdressing addiction to my wife, one of the first things she said (after a long pause) was, well I know you certainly aren't gay!
It is a misguided opinion in the wider community that CDing and homosexuality are linked, when we know that is not the case!
Cheers
Tash
I really wish, in my heart of hearts, that we all could get to the point where we honestly don't give a dam what a person does in private or with their privates. Its been raining for awhile and I'm not feeling very gay right now, but spring is on the way and I'll be going camping and a gay time will be had by all.
I did'nt consider myself "gay" when I went through my depression and loneliness period, even though it spanned 6/7 years. I hated it, and I hated myself. I used to have anxiety when I used to get with men, and nothing worked. It was terrible and embarrasing at the same time. I went to gay clubs in Melb. and had a older boyfreind in 2003 for 2 mths. I was doing all this against my will. I never and still dont consider men as attractive. I was a huge alchoholic through these times too, and I was at a dead end, until I moved to queensland in 2005, met a accepting lady on the internet, and things have been perfect since. I've been sober 3 and a half years, and have'nt had any gay experiences in a very long time.
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]I love my gorgous flowing evening and ball gowns. I love swishing in them, and feeling how beautiful and shimmering they are. I love to feel like a princess. I love to be elegant, feminine and ladylike.
Your dressing doesn't make you gay. It makes you dressed. Your sexual preferences are independent of what you wear.Originally Posted by Shari
Neither, of course, does being gay make you a crossdresser. We all recognise the falsehood in the question put that way around - it's the same for the original question above.
BUT
You can't generalise. I'm bisexual. When in drab I must therefore be part homosexual and part heterosexual and the same if en femme. See? Bisexual. Simple really. When I'm full time it'll be the same. No change there sexually but a complete change in terms of gender.
You've only got one brain. You're one person. If you are attracted to members of the same sex you are gay. If not then you are not. Regardless of whether you are CDing or not. And if there's a sudden "inexplicable" change in sexual preference maybe it's not inexplicable or sudden at all but instead a result of jettisoning a denial carried for many years?
Sarah...
No revelation here folks, gender identity and sexual preference are two totally different things.
We wonder why when disclosures are made to family or friends that the first question we're often asked is "are you gay?" Yet there are many who participate in here who are very quick to go out of their way and assert they are NOT gay when at the end of the day it's not relevant at all in the context of being transgendered.
As usual when comparing our community to the world at large, we can't expect attitudes to change when we can't even come to grips with reality ourselves.
Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
Sunlight falls, my wings open wide. There's a beauty here I cannot deny - David Sylvian, "Orpheus" (1987)
Your not only pretty Karren but your very modest about it as wellWell there's nothing wrong with being gay... I have a gay family member... But I'm not gay... I'm just pretty!
Such an interesting question. It's been asked here a million times already, even since I've been here, and it's always one that I like to posit.
I don't know if it was intentional, but you asked a different question than the usual "If you CD are you gay?"
Well, I CD, I am not gay. I have been wondering if perhaps I am shifting to bi as I also find myself shifting towards being TS, but still, my general opinion of the male anatomy remains: "EWWW!!"
I do a blog that I update only periodically with LGBT issues, but really, I do that more because of having gay friends, and being just lumped in with them than anything else.
"Thoughts are the shadows of feelings, always darker, emptier, and simpler. I don't care if they're fake or real, I just thank them for showing up at all. I have black periods. Who does not? But they are part of me; they are not a part of illness, but a part of my being. What am I saying? I have the courage to have them. Four o' clock in the morning. This sucks." - Alkaline Trio - Warbrain (First line courtesy of Nietzsche)
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No, actually fought the notion many years.......until that special evening..........after that it became my obsession and objective for dressing.
These days its so confusing i dont even know what i think........one minute attracted to ultra feminine women the next minute attracted to masculine women then attracted to a tgurl......and to wondering what it will be like go on a date with a guy etc its so tiring.
I would say i'm bi-sexual I do have urges to be a complete woman including sexual satisfaction.
If I was gay I would be a lesbian. I just love women and am jealous of everything they get to wear. I feel nothing towards guys. I could watch and be near women all day though.
At first - I did not know what to think - I knew that I only wanted to have a
relationship with real GG women.
JoAnne Wheeler
"An All American Bluegrass Girl and Proud As I Can Be"
I never thought myself as being gay or bisexual. When I dress in lingerie I just want to have sex with a woman/women. I have done some kinky things but having sex with a man is not one of them and never will be. I have nothing against gay and bisexual males. It is just not my cup of tea, that is all.
Daliah Hermes
i was very confused in my twenties about being a cd and thought that i might be gay. so i tried it, unfortunatly for the other man it did not get to far. it was interesting though. woman are so much more.
gretchen
When I was a teenager and my sister found out that I enjoy dressing in her things the first thing she asked if I was gay. The same thing with my ex-wife was the first thing are you gay.
No I'm not gay I just like dressing as a woman and wearing makeup. If I was gay I would have to be a lesbian as I enjoy being with a woman.
I'm not going to say I would never try a man but at this time I'm not interested in men.
Hi,
Haven't read most of the other responses; sorry. But, I never once pondered that I might be gay. Single mom: Check. Tried on her clothes in grade school: Check. Always fantasized about women and had girlfriends: check.
Everybody's different, and in a perfect world, verybody would be free do do what feels right to them regarding their gender preferences.
-Sedona
Ok love.... Maybe you should mention to her that you feel that the TG issues are more important to you than the depression issues. And maybe she isn't confused and you might find that there is a method to her madness...lol
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