CDing keeps me faithful...not the other way around

[Satrana]

While it is true that no one, not even the closest partner can meet all our needs, I still would not like to be in such a distant relationship where we each got our romantic or sexual needs met elsewhere. Even if the void was filled with other things than an affair, such as romance books, porn, or CDing ...... or religion, booze, food, gambling, shopping, workaholism, friends we are closer to than our SOs, hiding behind our children's needs, or a myriad other ways to not have an open, honest, loving, and intimate relationship.

I think we can all agree that open, loving intimate relationships are the goal we should all aim for. But I am too much of a grumpy pragmatic to believe this is what happens in reality. Large numbers of people settle for relationships which come nowhere close to these ideals but these arrangements work for them and they are happy to let things be. It lets them survive the tribulations of life.

People talk about the pursuit of happiness and yet it is clear many people are more interested in the pursuit of stability and conformity. I have seen many comments from GGs over the years who stated that they would rather their SO had never informed them of the CDing as they would have been happier remaining blissfully unaware. You can argue this is the wrong approach to life but that is how people actually think and behave and their wishes should be respected.

What gets me about this thread is that it is way too judgmental. There are people who believe that any woman who chooses to love and support a CD is sacrificing her own happiness and would feel pity for the wife.

How do you feel to know others pity you because they feel you are living with a partner who cannot love you properly?

There are many rocks being thrown around in this glasshouse, lots of personal condemnations of Dana based on zero knowledge of how their relationship works.

PS. this is not directed at Reine since she is not throwing rocks!