Quote Originally Posted by danam View Post
One disclaimer (of sorts): I read the line about Romance novels being female porn in an article somewhere (so it is not an original thought) and I found it to be deliciously provocative and fascinating
It is actually an old debate which goes all the way back to Victorian times when society feared women's minds would become corrupted. Mind you the Victorians thought seeing a woman in her undergarments would corrupt men's minds too.

On many levels it does produce the same quandaries - such as unrealistic expectations of what to expect from relationships and the behavior of your partner and as well unrealistic expectations of sex itself. It idealizes and packages men in the same way pornography packages women. Page and page of detailed sex scenes is clearly pornographic but when wrapped up in a love story it escapes society's censor. Anyway that is another topic altogether.

Drop the inflammatory tone and realize that people come here for advice and support, not to be yelled at.
Condemnation is more fun!