The desire to go out in public

[Sally2005]

What you have to do is imitate a female... follow your wife around the house reapeating every move she makes (don't let her see you though)... and you will get an idea how to move.

I've had some success pretending I have a string attached to the top of my head pulling me up...helps you sit properly and walk with your hips. The other thing that helps is to pretend your elbows are attached to your waist, it forces you to use your arms in a more femine way.

[tricia_uktv]

Attitude, Confidence and Practice. If you have the first two you will be amazed about what you can do. With a lot of the third you may even get close to passing, but I wouldn't bank on it. Good luck, get out there and strut your stuff!

[JaylaaGurl]

Can't agree with Edyta C.

Yes, it's true that there are lots of different ways women walk, and some of them are manly. But if we copy them, then we'll just look... manly. Rather defeats the object.

For me, the secret is that women take up less space.

• Small steps
• Feet in line, not splayed out
• Elbows tucked into the waist
• Sit neat, don't sprawl
• Knees together when sitting

Add to that the fact that they're not self-conscious, so they look up and don't slouch, and you've covered most bases.

I haven't video taped yet.. so I could be dead wrong here but I feel the best when going with the same idea as Katie.. I know I still need lots of practice though.

[gillian1968]

Hi Girls,

I've read and noticed that if you walk more with your palms facing a little forward, your elbows move closer to your waist and your arms will fall into a more feminine position.

That flash tool is incredible, it will really help me visualize what I'm trying to achieve...

-Gillian

[Nicki B]

One thing that aggravates me the most, is that my elbows naturally want to bend outward, gunslinger stance. I hate it! So I try to keep them tucked in at all times. But I find that if I don't stay aware, then, outward they bend.:Angry3:

Gillian beat me to it, in her post above - just keep your hands slightly palm forward, your elbows will tuck in naturally..

[Michelia]

Panhead

I can only tell you what worked for me.

Forget about trying to pass. I stayed cooped-up for two years waiting for the day I could go out while improving my passing skills - which never happened.

I am read by every single person I meet. Guess what? I am having the time of my life.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I have not been able to go out recently because of Boundaries" set by my

spouse - I cannot stand it, BUT the rest of you have told me that I need to

respect and agree to those "boundaries" - it may kill me, but I am trying to

As far as advice, watch and listen to GGs out in public - try to emmulate

them as much as possible - do not act scared - go out with dignity and

confidence - act relaxed

JoAnne Wheeler

[Ronni Seymour]

Gillian beat me to it, in her post above - just keep your hands slightly palm forward, your elbows will tuck in naturally..

Hey, it works! I've always had the focus on my elbows. Little things do make a big difference!

[grace@4]

[QUOTE=kelly1469;1661778]i have a massive urge 2 go out in public in fem! (just too nervous!!)

i really observe girls more now, how they dress, act, walk, etc - so i can hope to imitate![/QUOT


that make two of us,if we could just break the ice together am thinking of a nite out in london some time this summer l was gonna ask a close friend to come alone but am too nervous even on my own lets to this and have a girl nite out xx

[Carly D.]

It's really hard to stop thinking like a guy.. guys do things so much differently.. it's a mindset.. I tried to just relax and enjoy it, but it is really hard to shut the man mind off.. or even to curb it a little...

[Di]

Everyone gave you great ideas. I was thinking for your first venture out maybe find a tg/ cd group in your area..............can even be a few hrs away. That is usually in a more controlled situation with other ladies there for support. Just google it and check it out. Be not as stressfull for your first venture out and some have areas to change ect so you would not have to drive there dressed.

[girl@heart]

i also really desire to go out in public! i thought about it this halloween but chickened out...maybe next year!