Croddersser...do I come out?

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Libby

to the forum

Firstly take a deep breath and relax. At the age of 21 there is no real need to rush any decision. Try to be more observant of your parents attitude as to comments they may make about cross dressing
This may give you some indication as too their attitude

If you do decide to tell either or both parents you should read the link in my signature ( how to tell your partner )

It has some advice which you may find useful

[Nicole Erin]

So yeah at 21 you still have your whole adult life ahead.
Just don't do anything to mess up your life like getting married or having kids.
Do not get into situations that you cannot easily back out of.

Kids sometimes do things to aggrivate their parents. My kid does to me, and I know my parents have probably cursed the day I was born a few times. BUT - they are still family.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life, how do you want to live it?

[Mary Jane1]

I seriously doubt you'll find any enemies or even critics on here so relax.

Believe me, time is not running out. I first became aware of my feminine self pre-teen and I've been dressing privately all my life. It's only in the last three years I've considered transitioning and am on that path now. And I'm 51. Do I wish I'd made the decision earlier ... yes. Do I feel it's too late ... absolutely not. So don't you.

When you say it's too late to be who you've dreamed & wished you could be, that's simply not true. Actually, you can be a woman. But whether your goal is to be 'en femme' 24/7, a transitioned woman or anything in between, you have lots of time. I suggest visiting www.lynnconway.com. There is a wealth of info there about male femininity in general, not just transitioning.

Your age and other circumstances probably have as much to do with your anxiety as cd'ing does. If your seeing a doctor or therapist for that, maybe discuss cd with them. Or find a gender therapist through a doctor or a school program. Someone who can help you find the best way to tell family & friends.

I'm running on here, aren't I? - Just remember, there are lot's of options and you have lot's of time. Don't feel pressured. They'll still be selling dresses & high heels next year.
Take care and good luck

[Tina B.]

Libby, welcome!
I was 21 before I knew what I was even had a name, and I was not the only one like this in the world. You are lucky, you know you belong to a fairly large group of very supportive people! And if you look around school I bet you can find help with the anxiety problems and a LGBT group to help you find your way through the maze of choices before you. Take your time you have pleanty of it, and remember it's your life, find what makes you happy and go for it.
Tina

[Christina Horton]

Don't feel pressured. They'll still be selling dresses & high heels next year.
Take care and good luck

Not if I buy them first there won't be. LOL. I spend way to much in Christina. Just imagine if I had a girl friend, I would be living in a tent or something.

[tricia_uktv]

Live your dream Libby-Anna. Come out it slowly, take your time and enjoy it. I wouldn't say anything yet to your parents. Its amazing what you can do if you are determined. Above all though, have fun!