There is a classic Peanuts cartoon where Linus shows Lucy how beautifully he has polished his shoes. As he turns to leave she notices that the heels are still dirty and scuffed and she tells him he didn't polish the heels.. He explains to her that "I care what people think when I walk into the room, I don't care what they think when I am leaving."
Works for me. It gives them something to talk about over that wine cooler after work.
