Quote Originally Posted by MissConstrued View Post
I would really like to know where some of you get off, expecting to be treated with respect everywhere you go,
Coloradan, meet New York Stater (and Illinoisan). Of course we expect to be treated with respect everywhere, It's a part of the "societal social contract" here. Isn't it there?

just because you're somehow f***ing special.
It's not that we're special, it's just expected that people be polite, to everyone.

It's nice when it happens; folks should treat others with respect; and it would certainly make a nicer society. But there's no law.
Sure, there's no law but there's an unspoken and unwritten "social contract", which changes over time.

Do they not have a right to their own opinions? Do they not have the same right to free speech as you? (At least, while it lasts...)
They can think whatever they want, write whatever they want, but in retail relationships, business dealings, employment, housing, or just being out in public they'd better follow the rules (both written and unwritten) and social contracts.

Put yourself in someone else's shoes for a change. Hmm... I see a man in a dress. Man is the operative term. A man in a dress is a man, not a woman. Now what do you do?
You do what you're expected to do and what you've learned to do, and in some cases actually taught to do, you use ma'am.

Secondly, we're not all so hung up on pronouns. I don't care what someone calls me. On the same night, I'll get sir, miss, and ma'am.
For some of us, the pronouns are important.

So a retail minion directs a snide remark your way. Welcome to Earth. Fat people get it. Teenagers. Goths. Yuppies. Mexicans. You're not special.
No one should get it. People can think what they want, but there's unwritten social contracts. And around here they include, "don't be a rude asshole, be polite to everyone." It's a part of "fitting in"

And yes, to go about with the expectation that you should be addressed in a certain way, and to expect everyone to know it -- by extension, expecting to NOT be offended -- is arrogant. Haughty. False sense of entitlement.
How is it arrogant or haughty when that is what happens. You come here and go out crossdressed you WILL be addressed as Ma'am or Miss. Anyone who doesn't address you so has either not been paying attention (ignorance) or is being intentionally rude.

I expect people to know the proper behavior in regards to us, the same way I expect people not to use nasty racial epithets in public or to not call persons with Downs syndrome the "r" word.

Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.