Quote Originally Posted by Katie B View Post
[*]Telling one's spouse is not the same as telling one's boss or one's neighbours. I have entered into a socially-recognised personal contract with my wife, an impersonal contract with my boss and no contract at all with my neighbours outside common law and friendship.
That the relationships are different is clear. But what is the operative difference that effects disclosure at which stage of intimacy? This is needed to know what relationships disclosure of being a CD is neccessary.

And remember we do consider some things, like STDs, require disclosure by law prior to engaging in sexual acts but outting someone elses medical history against their will is often considered both unethical AND a crime. So both an obligation to anothers privacy as well as an obligation to disclosure BOTH exist in ethics and law in certain circumstances.

Firstly on when one would someone be obliged to tell:

A first date?
Asking someone on a first date?
Before first sexual encounter with that person?
Before Marriage?

As for other relationship types:

Should close friends where there is a strong trust bond be told?
Ones parents?
Ones children?
Ones siblings?
A Boss if being outted could effect the business?

If not that, why? If not you, who?
Darn good questions.
I decided that I couldn't stand by and that if I wanted anyone else to do things then I should do them too so thats why I'm doing what I can, increasing in stages both my public outness and my civil-rights activity.