So after reading through, I realized I can't leave this point alone.
Am I to assume none of you consider adoption feminine? You're still raising a child who needs love and nurturing. Who gives a damn where it came from?
In my opinion, what you do is a hell of a lot more important than what you "are." So giving birth is "proof" that you're feminine? That's an utter misconception dug up from gender stereotypes. Giving birth doesn't prove you're feminine; it just proves you're biologically female. And what sort of message would that otherwise give to GFs who are unable to bear children? That they're failures as feminine women?
I'm sorry, but I have a major sensitivity to the stigma of adoption. Adopted people seem to be the one minority that's still okay to piss on.
