ADIÓS BABY!
If it were my life, I think that I would consider this as a "deal breaker." You have to talk with her, you have to try. But, if it gets worse; I would also be making contingency plans on what I would need to do, and when.
I don't think you will be able to live with The Ultimatums! At this point, I would be thinking about minimizing The Damage!
Peace and Love, Joanie
