Came home and all my clothes are gone

[Misty is Kindafem]

Well Kelly, unlike many of us CD/TS, you have not had things so hard. You are one of those who passes easily, lives this perfect life as a woman and you love to boast about it here...

Hang on a minute, nobody here has any idea about the relative "hardness" of Kelly's life. It's true that she is gorgeous and super hot and inexplicably camera shy but I'll bet you a buck that her path to fabulous has been hard enough that few of us would knowingly endure the same trials.

She may indeed have it all now, but there certainly was also a time when she lost it all and was forced to start a new life.

Passing easily? After years of work and courage sure. That was easy.

Easy? It's doubtful that she looked like the cutie patootie she is now when she first made the decision to go full time. In fact, I would venture to say that her aversion to cameras was probably earned the old fashioned way. It may actually take years of seeing who she is before she will be able to really deal with who she was.

What you call "boasting" is well deserved as far as I'm concerned. She's done the work. I sit here in my gilded closet, carefully choosing who I allow to punch my dance card. Cautiously stepping through the moves while Kelly is courageously taking on each new dance backwards and in high heels.

Please don't discount her point of view just because she's beautiful. There's a word for that isn't there?

-Misty

[Celeste]

Sounds like your mom's patio rm. will have to work now,I would have my stuff secured however,maybe in a locked closet.She may have found out within the last few years ,but I feel these arrangements could have been decided without the invasion of privacy and loss of all your belongings.I too feel this is more about control, judging from what you've told us. Have you thought of asking her if she feels throwing out all your stuff is really going to change the way you feel inside.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Hi Wendy,

I read through most of what is here for you and there is a lot of solid advice once you get past the angry comments.

My two cents worth.

TIME is your biggest advantage in this situation. Patience is your other key player. Right now your S/O is doing a LOT of thinking whether you realize it or not. Sure, what she did was wrong, but at this point there is not much you can do about it save for protecting the things you acquire from this day forward.
Listening to your S/O when she vents will give you insight into her window of the world and the answers you need to move things forward in a positive way. It appears she DOES wanna keep the family together and has begun to COMPROMISE even just a little.
Give her the time and space she needs to process this and you may well see more compromise from her end in the not too distant future.

She may not be interested right now, but you may eventually tell her about the really cool GG's right here in this very forum that will not hesitate to give her an ear, some good advice, and keep it completely private from the rest of the world. Sometimes, having others to talk to that are going through similar situations can really make all the difference.

In the meantime, get YOUR world on the right track both personally and professionally! Keeping busy is a bonafide way of not "thinking" too much lol.

Know that we are still here for you when you need us.

There... now BREATH in ... BREATH out... relax

*much hugs*

Zarabeth

[KayC]

Wendy,
Would it be possible to have your wife post her version on here? It'd be so much easier to see what is going on with both perspectives laid out. Venting is all good, but it seldom accomplishes any significant change, for that we have to see what we're dealing with, often with a fresh perspective.

[Seagull]

I spent a bit scanning the post so far in this thread, and I feel like I would like to offer my opinions to the OP.
From my perspective, You have had an emotional outburst by your wife towards your crossdressing, and she has offered a resolution that does allow you expression of it as long as she does not need to deal with it.
I think there may be some other issues in the marriage that need some work as well, like communication as well as coming to understand each other to work towards a concensus that can actually work.

Get counciling. But do it with a provider experienced with both relationship and gender issues. A thrid party may help you two work out what both of your needs are as a mediator and allow you to both have space to talk out issues.
What has been offered as a solution is but a band aid to a more serious set of issues.

YIS,
WRI