Quote Originally Posted by Fab Karen View Post
( #113) Satrana has some good advice. If there's any hope of a lasting loving marriage, it will take couples therapy.


"I have read countless threads about un-accepting SO's and it's always the same... BOO HOO, and always the same reaction from the cder's THE UNACCEPTING SO is to blame......and the cd'er who hides, and lies and deceives is always the victim. They can lie and hide and deceive their loved ones because their lives are so darn hard...and people are going to agree, because if they didn't, how could they rationalize their own actions when the time comes?"
Nicole Erin's opinion of your life isn't shared.Many of us do not support lying/hiding from a partner. Generalizations only lead us further from reality.
There's two issues here- one being the hiding/deceiving, the other is an abusive controlling partner. "do as I tell you" isn't compromise, & not a loving union.
If the situation was reversed, would it be ok if Wendy had suffered some hurt & responded by throwing out all of her wife's things?
I agree with you Karen.. Wendy's wife shouldn't have thrown away her things. I think what I was trying to say is that maybe Wendy's wife just got fed up with trying to deal with something that she isn't or may never be comfortable with. I personally think that there is more to this story than meets the eye. Why would someone just snap.. out of the blue and do a complete 180? I don't think people should be so quick to judge
the wife without hearing her side. As I mentioned before, These threads on un accepting SO's are plentiful, and the blame seems to fall on the unaccepting SO rather than the cder who for the most parts gets absolution from the rest.
And let me just ask you one thing........... Did Wendy give her wife the opportunity to compromise from the get go? Nope, not one thought was given to her wants or desires. Wendy was actually the controlling one, by omission.. how loving was that? Are we supposed to look at that as water under the bridge?


And finally............ Nicole Erin has no clue as to how easy or hard my life has been. Her opinion about my life and $3.00 will get her a crummy cup of coffee at Starbucks. ... if she has the nerve to go out in public that is

Kelly