I suggest you read this thread. It has a lot of good information in it and offers a perspective into the thought process of many GG's. But the bottom line is you need to talk to one another. Get the elephant out of the room.
Couldn't access the thread you cited. Any suggestions?
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.