Thinking About Coming "Out" At Thanksgiving?

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

Well, just to address the rhetorical scenario, it may be a bit different for you to come out if it's at your wife's family's thanksgiving than it was for the uncle. Remember that the Uncle has been a part of all of their lives for as long as they can remember, so his coming out is likely to be more accepted than yours might be, because even though they've accepted you into their family, and you may really feel like part of the family, you're still a "new member." And your coming out will be filtered through the lens of you being married to your wife. Their first priority will still be their concern for her. I'm not saying they wouldn't be accepting, I'm just saying it's a bit bigger a hurdle than the uncle's.

But on the general topic at hand, I don't think I'd want to use Thanksgiving or any big event because we've had enough drama on events and I'd rather not contribute to it.

Plus, I don't want that turkey stealing my thunder.

[Karren H]

Thanks to this thread.... come Thursday afternoon........ I'm going to have a difficult time when my wife asks me "what kind of dressing do you want with your turkey"... I dare say "cross" won't be one of the shoices.. Sigh.

[Tara_G]

Hi all, new girl here from Austin TX! Had to read this thread because of my current circumstances. I had a tough year, got laid off from my 6 figure mgmt job, summer was a 100+,
and just when I shaved my wife had to bring home my Mother-in-law and here sister because her mom was not getting the medical help she needed in her state. Spent a month or two coming out to my sister-in-law and having a few great nights dressing up. Then my wife's daughter and our two grandchildren got evicted and had to move in with us. Came out to the stepdaughter and she accepted me and even went shopping for me. My brother and his wife had kept asking me to come up to the hot-tub so I finally confided in them about my shaved legs & dressing (they said no big deal).


11/25 - wife took her mom and sis home. daughter-in-law has the kids at some friends. Thanksgiving dinner planned at my brothers with my Mom coming.

Seems like everybody knows and only my Mom doesn't accept.
She links my drinking with cross-dressing (some good reasoning there ). What to do......

1) blow brains out at the dinner table as mom is eating cranberry sauce
2) tell mom who desperately wants me to love her that she is the reason we aren't close
3)watch the Cowboys kick the Raiders butt

let me know what you think

[Laura Jane]

I was wondering if anyone here has ever used Thanksgiving as a time for announcing to the family that the were transgendered or a crossdresser.

Far too Me, Me, Me. Not an attractive quality in a person!

[trannie T]

Seems like everybody knows and only my Mom doesn't accept.
She links my drinking with cross-dressing (some good reasoning there ). What to do......

1) blow brains out at the dinner table as mom is eating cranberry sauce
2) tell mom who desperately wants me to love her that she is the reason we aren't close
3)watch the Cowboys kick the Raiders butt

let me know what you think

Enjoy the turkey then hit the couch and watch football. The Thanksgiving table is not the proper place to blow one's brains out, don't you ever read Miss Manners? Don't pick a fight with Mom despite what she may say to you. The Cowboys are favored by two touchdowns so you may fall asleep by halftime which might be the best thing to do.

[AmberLynn]

i haven't read all the responses so i don't know if anyone mentioned this but the best day to come out would be on Halloween. dress as a girl and make up your mind if you want to come out based on how your family responds.:D

tried 10 years ago,as i have stated in other threads it didnt go so well. they think i have stopped. if only they new. My so/and amber were going to put the tree up togeather tommrow night in front of are big window with the curtin open. how ever my 3 nephews will now be in town right across the ally, so dont know if thats gonna happen or not. I dont want to chance them seeing me and confuse them.

[AKAMichelle]

So the question now is - What Happened? Did you tell them? How many ambulances were called?

We have boring lives and are dying for some excitement. So Tell!!!

[Melissa_Z]

... Remember that the Uncle has been a part of all of their lives for as long as they can remember, so his coming out is likely to be more accepted than yours might be, because even though they've accepted you into their family ...

On this point I'd also add that it seems to me that there is something really different about coming out as T*/CD versus as gay. At the end of coming out as T*/CD I think people are going to have the tendency to wonder about all the presentation kinds of stuff ("uhhh ... what does he look like as a girl," "does this mean you will always look femme from now on?" etc..). Its almost like you are coming out as a different person entirely. I don't think those issues are quite the same for a gay coming out. I guess "gay" is more of a known quantity to more people (not to trivialize). Maybe I'm not thinking it through enough though (too much turkey yesterday).

Plus, I don't want that turkey stealing my thunder.

It's like highlander perhaps? There can be only one jiveturkey?

Thanks to this thread.... come Thursday afternoon........ I'm going to have a difficult time when my wife asks me "what kind of dressing do you want with your turkey"... I dare say "cross" won't be one of the shoices.. Sigh.

Pwahaha. Control it Actually that reminds me of one time when we had a guest over for dinner. I made a spicy salad dressing and my guest asked what I called it ... I said "cross-dressing, because it's spicy and angry." I got the normal response to my pun-tacular sense of humor. We proceeded to enjoy our salads.

Mel

[Tara_G]

Well Jessica, how was your Thanksgiving?

I planted my butt in front of the tube and watched the Boy's rough up those dreaded Raiders all by myself. Ironically, there were 4 other "men" in the house and none of them were watching the game.

Maybe we need our own holiday between Halloween and Xmas

TransGiving