Have you ever wanted something so bad that you promised Santa that if he would only grant your request you would clean your room forever, take out the trash and do your homework on time the rest of your life? How did that work out?
Scene 2: You see a woman who is exactly what your dreams have been. She is stunning, smart, rich, a great cook, fine lover and perfect in every way. So you made the Santa promise. I will Never ever ever wear, look at, touch women's clothes or look at VS catalogs ever again if I can marry her. You know how that worked out.
Scene 3: same woman, same thoughts except now you tell her. She tells you she can't live with that. You are crushed for a week until...zing the same dream in a different body comes along. You tell her upfront and honest. She says that's Ok with her. You live happily (hopefully) ever after and woman in scene 2 finds another guy who fits her mold. You don't break anyone's heart after several years of living in a tense relationship AND you didn't promise Santa anything more than you would try and be a good boy the rest of the year.
