Quote Originally Posted by Kelly DeWinter View Post
Truly I would love to go to a club, to see everyone interacting, without the groupings i normaly see. It's as if there are high school cliques !

Is it the same in other cities as well ?
Yup, it is. But ime, the cliquishness isn't altogether insurmountable. Here are some tips:

  • If you hang out often and long enough, they get to know you and warm up considerably. But you have to accept the fact that some people you're never gonna reach.
  • Ime the people in the lesbian bars, which all seem to attract at least a few gay guys, are generally friendlier and more gracious than the crowd at the gay bars.
  • In all the clubs, winning over the bartenders is key. They'll speak up for you, make introductions, pass notes etc.
  • It really helps to be outgoing and initiate interaction. This hasn't been easy for me cuz I'm shy around strangers, doubly so cuz of insecurity about being CD. Turns out they all thought I was aloof -- and there I sat, just dying for someone to come over and say hi. What a doofus.
  • Most of my club outings have been done solo, and I'm nearly always the only TG in the place, but having a friend along seems to melt the ice a bit. I guess it reassures people that I'm not a leper. :D (No offense to lepers.)