Thanks Reine.

I don't presume to know you or your wife, but if at the time you were not accepting of yourself, you may have projected your feelings of guilt or shame on her. She may have been overwhelmed with the sudden news that you are TG and she may have been afraid, not understanding how this would affect your relationship, but hopefully she wasn't disgusted.
The part about projecting my own guilt an shame makes perfect sense. At the time, I was feeling a lot of it so it would make sense that she would see it in my reactions with her.

I have two kids that are young teenagers. The oldest, my daughter, is extremely tolerant about TG and homosexuality. My son is as well, just that my daughter is wide open about it. She says that she loves gay guys and has had a few good friends at school that were. As a matter of fact, there was a conversation last night between my kids about the phrase "that's so gay" being used by kids these days to say something is stupid. My son says it, not thinking of how it might affect anyone. Her comment to him was to stop using that phrase because "you might offend someone who is homosexual, but is trying to come to terms with it.".

Both of the kids have seen me enfemme for Halloween. My son thinks it's funny. My daughter now thinks it's creepy to see Dad in a dress. What didn't help was that I wasn't trying to present as best as I could. Neither of them know about my CDing though. But there's hope.