Crossdresser Versus Diaperman

[ReineD]

Thanks Jenni!

Wow, that's a huge site. I noticed pics of CDs there too. This does not startle me, since infantilism is also a form of subordination? And the idea of being submissive is certainly not uncommon in the TG community .. in fact I would guess it is pretty much the norm.

When I first became aware of CDing, my knowledge was superficial and I did believe it was a form of fantasy play. My attitude changed as I got to know my SO and other members of this community. Still, I believed other forms of character expression (within the BDSM community at large) to be fantasy play as well. Now I see this is not necessarily true. Or, as with every other community, the degree of self-identification vs. role play varies from member to member.

I wish I had the ability to let go and allow myself to even discover, let alone express some of my basic instincts and desires. I do not know what I would discover. But if I could do this it would be the embodiment of self-acceptance. And I'm sure I would be better able to resolve some issues in my life. I admire people who can do this.

It is understandable that a society needs a certain structure in order to function. There are rules for our survival, such as moving beyond the childhood stage to adulthood in order to be a responsible and productive member of society, or staying within our genders to ensure the propagation of our species. It makes sense to me why many people instinctually fear those who do not appear to conform to these rules. And we have been indoctrinated to not be tolerant of people who appear to live outside the 'norms'. This is where I believe homo/transphobia comes from for example. Or if we choose to break a norm for ourselves, we are not tolerant of others who break different norms. So we've fashioned a society where a degree of decorum must be followed, although there is a tolerance for what people choose to do behind closed doors, as long as it is not illegal. But there is a difference between self-expression and not being a productive member of society. I believe that in our culture especially since the 60s, social norms are slowly widening enough to accept this as long as we believe that a certain personal expression does not fundamentally threaten the fabric of our society.

I hope that acceptance of someone's need to step beyond birth gender is increasing. I don't know if we'll get to a point where we also accept someone's need to express an inner child. Maybe.

I guess what I'm getting at is that I believe there is a correlation between CDing and infantilism. They are both valid forms of self-expression.