Crossing dressing and dating guys?

[ReineD]

On the other hand, I'm interested in straight men, and that doesn't work as well when you're not full-time or working with the right bits.

I want to be with a man that looks at me as a woman regardless of what's in between my legs.

Plumbing is cosmetic, it's the heart and soul and brain that defines the person.

I understand a TG wanting to be desired as a woman by a straight man, and not by a gay man who would see her as another gay man (in a dress). I also agree that plumbing is cosmetic.

But, is it possible to find a straight man who would want a CD or non-op TS? A man who truly understands that plumbing is cosmetic? Not according to Richard/Alice Novic, M.D., author of "Alice in Genderland". A quote from a page on her site: "And if you think the men you reel in are pure, straight men with no clue, then you’re only fooling yourself—pleasant as that may be." (Quote is near the bottom of page.)

If Alice is correct and if you are not into gay men and you knew that the 'straight' man you were with did not in fact see you purely as a woman, would it dampen the experience?