Question: Why be a homely woman, when u can be a reasonably attractive man?

[docrobbysherry]

That is the question I used to ask when I saw a CD. BEFORE I became one, about 13 years ago. :brolleyes:

I finally went out dressed for the very first time, at the SCC. As a CD, I KNOW which I prefer now! :D
( TG/TS's, we KNOW u dress because it's who u r! U really have NO CHOICE!)

But, many CDs DO have a choice! So, why would U go out dressed as a homely woman? Or, Do U!?

[SuzanneBender]

Sherry I saw you at SCC and you are not a homely woman! So I know you are asking this question rhetorically.

I can't give you an answer because I am one of those gals who is only expressing who is inside.

[aggi123]

I've been told I make an attractive man, but I'd just rather be feminine. If it's a homely woman, than so be it. I'm all confused in my head right now :O

[msniki48]

That is the question I used to ask when I saw a CD. BEFORE I became one, about 13 years ago. :brolleyes:

I finally went out dressed for the very first time, at the SCC. As a CD, I KNOW which I prefer now! :D
( TG/TS's, we KNOW u dress because it's who u r! U really have NO CHOICE!)

But, many CDs DO have a choice! So, why would U go out dressed as a homely woman? Or, Do U!?

ouch you hit a chord!

but it is true, i struggle with that question all the time. unfortunately i can't get paste the [caring what people think phase] even us TG's ask ourselves that question. especially as i get older and need alot more makeup.

i'll go into it another time

hugs

msniki48

time for my jammies / nighty night

[sherri52]

I believe that whichever you are as a man wether it be good looking, homely, or ugly; you make a step up as a woman. Makeup does wonders for the body and makes us feel good about ourselves as well.

[kellycan27]

I was an uglier man....

[Nicole Erin]

the gender thing is who you are inside. TG's just try to make the outside reflect the inside best they can.

Might make an ugly this or a good looking that but if it is not who you are...

I have seen some guys who would make knock-out looking women but it is unlikely they would want to present as women.

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

The answer to your question is actually one of the big reasons I stopped dressing as a woman for the most part. I realized I looked better as a man in women's clothes than I did as a woman.

[PretzelGirl]

If I can't be good looking either way, I would rather be happy!

[Stephenie S]

Dear Doc (and all you others),

The FACT is that women come in ALL shapes and sizes, just like men. There are fat women, thin women, beautiful women, ugly women, handsome women, plain women, short women, tall women, women with broad shoulders, women with little boobs, women with narrow hips and no butt, and women with big hands and feet.

The desire to be, or look like, a pubecent teenage girl is impossible to attain for a middle aged man. But that doesn't mean you can't present to the world as a woman. It just means you can't look like a teenage girl no matter what you do or wish. It just ain't gonna happen. You are going to look like a tall women with broad shoulders, no hips and butt, no waist, and big hands and feet.

So suck it up. Get used to it. Live with it. Of course it would be wonderful to be thin, short, cute, and buxom. But 99% of the natal women out there would love to look this way too. In reality most people are not perfect, not men, and not women. We all have to work with what we got. You can spend your life wishing and wanting, or you can live your life the best you can with what God gave you. The choice is up to you.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[Fran Moore]

Stephanie, and I totally agree. The other thing to remember is that our time here on earth is limited, and if you are fortunate enough to live in a country where you have the freedom to dress as you please without persecution, then by all means, do so, and do it with pride and purpose.

Suzanne

[Bridget Fitzgerald]

We're not women we're crossdressers, and most of you are beautiful.

[Christina Horton]

Hay Doc, As you can see by my pic's I don't pass and I would not say I am a homely (looking) woman but not bad. I am not by any stretch of the imagination a gorgeous woman ,and I just don't care. I dress out for me and for the exception of who I am inside and wanting to show the world how fabulous we can be and how sweet we are. :D

Wow I have been saying this so much that after this I will put it into my signature , but before I do that I will say ("I love being a Crossdresser")

[Kerigirl2009]

I dress even though I believe I am a handsome man (prud) I have been told that I am good looking. Now as far as being a homely woman. In my opinion homely is the way people carry themselves not how they look. If a person feels ugly that is what they present to the world (its written on their face) If a person feels pretty that is what they pesent to the world (again its written on their face) To me its all attitude and confidence and a general no care about what others think. So for me I would like to protray the best looking female version of myself.

[Stina84]

I think it is because most of us don't dress because we would think we look better as women than as men. I dress because I love feeling like a woman and being treated like one.

[txrobinm]

When I present as a man, women are attracted mostly by my intellect and personality. Let's say my looks don't interfere with that That process takes a looooong time, even though it's rewarding in friendship.
When I present as a woman, people are attracted first by looks (and I'll include accessories here), then by personality second. Getting to meet people quickly seems quicker, then, as a woman; even though it's just superficial at the moment, this is fun, and a big reason why I go out.

Stephanie S said it best.

[Amanda Styles]

These days neither or my persona is that much as far as eye candy goes.

[pamela_a]

I made a horrible looking man. I'm much happier doing what I can to look like what I am, a middle aged woman

[windycissy]

Good question, these days I dress to blend into the crowd, using a lot of the tricks that GG's have to de-emphasize the less attractive aspects of their figures...you did get me to thinking about how cute I was when I was dressing up in my sister's clothes when I was 12, if I knew then what I know now!

[Angie G]

This is why I don't go out dressed hun.
Angie

[Midnight Skye]

Totally funny, but I think most of us posting in this thread are TG or leaning that way - giggles -. But what the heck! When I classified as CD, I also felt like an ugly man. Women are incredibily beautiful creatures... and even a homely woman can polish up in a way no man can ever dream of. Between the clothing, makeup, and accessories women bring attraction to an entire different level.

Though... dirty old men do have it made as far as staying "attractive" and getting old is concerned lol

[Kate Simmons]

As I said previously RS, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You've all seen many of my femme looks with my avatar pics here but even so some of my GG friends prefer me as my guy self. Go figure. In any case it matters to me little one way or the other and whatever I'm wearing I consider my "uniform" or "costume" for the day. Since I get into whatever character I'm portraying I consider myself a Transmorpher(TM) these days rather than a CD or TV.

[VeronicaMoonlit]

The FACT is that women come in ALL shapes and sizes, just like men. ...........

So suck it up. Get used to it. Live with it. Of course it would be wonderful to be thin, short, cute, and buxom. But 99% of the natal women out there would love to look this way too. In reality most people are not perfect, not men, and not women. We all have to work with what we got.

Yes, indeed.

We're not women we're crossdressers, and most of you are beautiful.

Actually, some of us are women, and/or identify as such.

Veronica Rogers

[docrobbysherry]

I was an uglier man....

Kelly, I don't think I'm the ONLY ONE HERE that thinks u couldn't POSSIBLY be a homely ANYTHING! No matter how hard u try!

Though... dirty old men do have it made as far as staying "attractive" and getting old is concerned lol

I guess I have the best of BOTH worlds then, Katlyn? Being a unattractive "dirty old man" who can become an attractive young woman when the mood strikes?

[PetiteDuality]

Dear Doc (and all you others),

The FACT is that women come in ALL shapes and sizes, just like men. There are fat women, thin women, beautiful women, ugly women, handsome women, plain women, short women, tall women, women with broad shoulders, women with little boobs, women with narrow hips and no butt, and women with big hands and feet.

You are totally right. But when you have broad shoulders AND no boobs AND narrow hips AND no butt AND big hands and feet AND manly face AND adam apple AND deep voice AND big muscles, it's a bit different...

Totally funny, but I think most of us posting in this thread are TG or leaning that way - giggles -. But what the heck! When I classified as CD, I also felt like an ugly man. Women are incredibily beautiful creatures... and even a homely woman can polish up in a way no man can ever dream of. Between the clothing, makeup, and accessories women bring attraction to an entire different level.

Though... dirty old men do have it made as far as staying "attractive" and getting old is concerned lol

This is totally true. Even homely women have so many ways to improve their beauty.

But even the best makeup and the nicest clothes can't make it work for me (no matter how much fun I get in the process).