JoAnne IMHO you really do need to talk to someone about how you feel. As you've been told before, your wife would be welcomed here to chat with other wives about cding, it my just help her understand a bit more.
How will raising her levels dispel the pink fog? If anything it could make it worse, she becomes more happy so pink fog is increased...and yeah I know about serotnin levels as I take SJW to keep my levels level.