I hate to say this but the whole P word gets thrown out a lot here. I work for a living with transgender people. Most TS girls I meet are not exactly well assimilated. Going even further I cannot say I have ever met a CD that could ever pull off a presentation of a woman that is seamless! Are the words harsh? Sure. Is that suggesting you stop dressing? Nope. You simply need to accept who you are and do whatever it takes to be happy and damm the rest of the world.
Katie