One common thread I've noticed in a lot of SOs response (to MTF, I presume FTM as well though not sure) is anger- as in hurling insults, sometimes physical anger.
My previous SO reacted this way to nearly everything and it led to our breakup because I couldn't understand why anyone would. It's something I've never done and can't envision doing unless it came to someone hurting my kids and then it would be in a measured way meant to contain rather than (pardon the expression) lash out.
So, I'm trying to understand how this feels and what leads to it. My current SO is accepting and didn't react this way at all but lots of others seem to and I'd like to understand why this is the first reaction and why it escapes before it's captured and toned down.
