Seeing Is Believing

[AriannaVillota]

There's a lot of jumping to conclusions here. What we do know is that she said she was fine with it and then suddenly changed her tune. She did not discuss it with him, but rather laid out an ultimatum. Whether they discussed it beforehand or if he did the talking and she said she was fine with it and chose not to express herself is unknown at this point.

The voice of reason.

I'm sorry that she reacted like that, and hopefully this is something that the two of you can still work out. Perhaps give it a few days and try to sit down and talk with her about things, see if she has questions. I know I'm seeing things through rose tinted glasses, but if you've been married x years, hopefully this won't be the end of that.

[Karen564]

There's a lot of jumping to conclusions here. What we do know is that she said she was fine with it and then suddenly changed her tune. She did not discuss it with him, but rather laid out an ultimatum. Whether they discussed it beforehand or if he did the talking and she said she was fine with it and chose not to express herself is unknown at this point.

[SIZE=2]OMG, Who's the one jumping to conclusions now..:brolleyes:[/SIZE]

[SIZE=2]How do You know what she said or didn't say or do...Were you there?[/SIZE]

[SIZE=2]Your only hearing on side of the story here..[/SIZE]

[NathalieX66]

Hi Brandi,
You have no idea what's on her mind until she finally aknlowledges exactly what a crossdresser is.

Hopefully time will heal the wounds. You have my prayers.

I am now at the point that I will show a picture of myself en femme as a litmus test, in order to avoid shock down the road.

Maybe being somone who lived & lives in all the big metro areas of the northeastern US (Boston/NY/Philly/Balt/DC), and hangs around an eclectic artsy crowd, I take such open-mindedness for granted.

I probably would have gone through great lengnths to explain exactly what/who a crossdresser is, including being a faithful loving husband, with examples to prove.

Anyway, sorry to hear that you are going through such rough times.

[Veronica Nowakowski]

[SIZE=2]OMG, Who's the one jumping to conclusions now..:brolleyes:[/SIZE]

[SIZE=2]How do You know what she said or didn't say or do...Were you there?[/SIZE]

[SIZE=2]Your only hearing on side of the story here..[/SIZE]

Rereading the first post, I may have. I somehow translated "I thought it was good for both of us" as "she was fine with it." But that doesn't make the other accusations any less of jumps to conclusions. We don't know how she reacted originally.