1) I want to be a woman
2) Yes I was when I was married
3) I wasn't really attracted to her a whole lot, especially toward the end.
1) I want to be a woman
2) Yes I was when I was married
3) I wasn't really attracted to her a whole lot, especially toward the end.
It takes a true Erin to be a pain in the assatar.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I like the look and feel of feminine clothing.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I am now totally open and honest. My wife has always known that I am CD/TV but at times I would dress up and go out without her knowing. If she found out she would get very angry, purge my clothes etc and threaten divorce - not because of me dressing but because of the deception. After a long discussion, a while ago, we agreed boundaries so that there was no longer any deception. Now she is happy for me to spend whole days as Rachael.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I am not attracted to my girl-side, my wife is the only girl for me!
Rachael
Rachel,
As a crossdresser my personality has several facets. Therefore, I suppose I can be forgiven for being facetious.
1) number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
To see what I'd look like as a female. To see how feminine I can look, at least to my own eye. I don't get much of a thrill from the feel of wearing feminine clothing - I have to see what I look like.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
No.
If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Not very much, as far as I can tell. I don't dress very often, only when family is away overnight somewhere. I spend more time on this site than I do dressing, so primary effect comes mostly from reduced attention to SO.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Yes. Not really "attracted" to my girl-side - my girl-side is still myself, just with a different look.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Because ~Michelle~ doesn't want to feel naked.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
Already told my wonderful wife before I got married. A good relationship is based on honesty.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Anyone who is more in love with him/herself than the partner seriously needs to start living single.
#1 Number one reason you wear feminine clothing
When younger I was bullied at school,dressing up was an escape for me I loved the look,feel and colours of female clothing (still do),I feel am a better more loving person when dressed
#2 Are you open and honest with your SO about your Dressing
Yes she knew from the start I Crossdressed,she loves my Female side,just as much as my male,she herself has said I show my loving,emotional feelings more when am a girl,and she takes a full part in everything I do
#3 Are you Attracted to your Partner as much as your Girl Side
Am So much in Love with my Lovely Wife (probably bored you all already amount of time ive talked about her on this site),She has my complete devotion,her understanding and support is overwhelming,how could I a bloke in a Dress compete.I have to say I could never have feelings for my girlie self,above my Wife,just doesnt make sense to me,I mean you've seen me lol.Infact I find it a wee bit weird to be honest
We look to Scotland,for all our Ideas of Civilisation-Voltaire
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A woman who loves to wear beautiful clothes is like a flower.
A man who loves to emulate these women is a special flower-a roseFacebook:Sophie Johnson
Because it makes me feel good. I don't feel uncomfortable in drab, but while fully dressed I feel like "me" so much more.Originally Posted by Di
Told her after we were living together, but before we were engaged. She's always been the 2nd person to know when things change with me. (I'm the 1st)2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
I love her and am attracted to her in whatever form I'm in. If it's a competition between Sally and her, she wins hands down.3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Sally
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I really wish I knew, in the beginning, I thought it was sexual. Now I do it because it allows me to be me. I feel complete, relaxed and wising I could transistion.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing?
I started when couples did not talk about things like that. I hid for many years, finally we talked. Prior to her passing away she had her moments where she was starting to understand and somewhat accept Melissa. I only wish the internet was around in the early years, I would have had more information for both of us.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
She was my wife, my lover, my Best Friend, even though she is dancing with the angels, I am still attracted to her. I learned so much from her, style, grace, the love of life, she was the only one, my girl side was second.
1. It takes the edge off day to day life
2. Don't have an SO :/
3. See above
Hi..
1, womans clothes
2, honesty & open
3 attracted to Jos
I wear womens clothes because im a woman & i hated any thing to do with mens clothes ,
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Yes & very open . straight up front & said to Jos i am a woman & all ways have been .
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I love Jos for who she is , She is the mother of ...our... children & i will care for her & will allways love her ,no matter what.
I dont have a girl side , in the sence of dressing on femm because my female side was / is who i am , I love her not as a male or female ,I love her as who i am . Words dont express what i would like to say, Its to emotional .
...noeleena...
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Therapy.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes, and she knows everything about me.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?[/QUOTE]
I am wholly attracted to her and love her with all my heart. My inner fem? I just am, that's all there is to it really.
I love to dress because it makes me feel good mentally and physically. Been dressing 60+ years and it is still sensual.
Wife knows all. So long as I stay within the "boundaries" all is well.
My wife is my only true love. If she asked, I would give up CDing. I think I would be a very unhappy puppy in that situation, but I would go to great lengths to keep her happy.
1. I don't know why I dress, maybe out of habit since I started at around age 9, for me it is not a sexual thrill maybe it did get me excited when I was a child but now days I feel it helps my mind put me in a better place
2. Being open and honest my answer is yes to a degree I am as open as I can be with my wife (though only since I told her 9 and a half months ago) I think it has affected us in a way that has both brought us a bit closer together but also made a few changes in the way she treats me such as joking around with comments, some she just not find as amusing as she used too.
3. As far as being attracted to her that has not changed at all I have always been very attracted to her. I have always wanted to feel sexy with her although this is something that I will never get to fully experience and I can understand why. I am always the man in our relationship, I love my wife now probably more than I did before I told her. however I have a large regret from the guilt of not being honest with her from the beginning.
Why? Because my wife makes me. She says if you are going to buy all that, you need to use it.
Really, it's because it's the only way I know to keep my head from feeling like it's going to explode.
Am I honest, to a fault. She has known for 33 years, and she knows it all.
Who do I love, My wife is my best friend, confidant, and lover, me I'm just a guy in a dress, so I would say she is.
Tina B.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing? I Like the look and how they feel and I like pretty things I allwas whanted to be a girl
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship? YES we offen go out to buy thing and she lets dress around the house ONLY
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
my wife is the only girl for me!
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
I'm not sure! I find it sexy, stimulating, and very sensual?
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
No SO.
3) Are you attracted to your partner(s) as much as your girl-side?
Lately? No!
NOTE: A lot of posted answers to question #3 mentioned their "love" for their partner! But, the QUESTION was about, "attraction", not "love"!
I'm attracted to Sherry, but there's NO love, affection, or companionship involved with her what so ever!
I was married, then divorced. At the end, I STILL loved her, but was NOT attracted to her! Why r so many here CONFUSING those very different feelings? Hmmmm?
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U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
[SIZE="2"]I like the feel of it, and I like the feeling it gives me – call it vulnerability (vs. male "security")…[/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]I don’t have a SO, but if I did I would keep my secret passion hidden. I might also let her do the femininity, and just bask in the glow, depending how feminine she happened to be (this varies).[/SIZE]2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
[SIZE="2"]It depends – what does my imaginary partner look like? You're assuming I must have (or need) one. It needs to be said that there are two of me, co-existing in one body, and I love myself…3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?[/SIZE]
Darn good question Doc
I allow myself to set healthy boundaries ..... to say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does.
Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me
my answer to number 1 is that womens clothes feel incredible and make me feel incredible,i just can't describe how happy dressing makes me feel.
2 and 3 don't apply to me cos i'm single
There's a very close link between the two there, though, don't you think?
Maybe I could have put "my wife is beautiful, and I'm an ugly hairy woman" but it wouldn't sound as positive, eh.
1: I guess if I have to boil it down to a number one reason it's because I like it. I need/have/want to present this part of me. When I do It just feels 'right' .
2: I told my wife before we were married.
3: I like what I see in the mirror, I have a very thick pair of rose colored glasses, I enjoy the way I look and the feeling I have dressing in these clothes, but what I see in the mirror is ME, A feminine me but still me. The question seems to be am I more turned on by looking at myself in the mirror or by my wife. No contest, my wife is the one that still makes my heart beat faster.
1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
Because I always had the desire/impulse/fantasy to do it, since my earliest days. Since then I've added some more conscious reasons on top of it, and I try to rationally shape it to be something I like and respect about myself, but at heart it's something I did not choose, though I'm not ashamed of it. "Wanting" it or not is not a question that makes sense to me, because it was always there. That said, I can go without it for months at a time or even more, but I know eventually it's gonna come out.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I'm happy to say I am now, I just told my partner this week, after being together for a year and a half. She reacted really positively, but it's also true she's a fairly understanding and non-conventional person in general. That said, though I've told her as much as I can, she hasn't seen it yet, so it remains to be seen how it will affect the relationship.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
A lot more so. I'm not really attracted to myself as a woman so much, it's more like I like going into that mode once in a while. So the two are not really in competition in that sense. The question could maybe be phrased as "is your attraction to your partner as strong as your desire to dress as a woman and the enjoyment you get out of it?" I think it depends on the particular relationship you have with your partner. I have been in a couple of relationships where the spark wasn't so strong; by comparison dressing or thinking about dressing seemed like a forbidden world of mystery so that was obviously more exciting at times. I think that can happen with other things too, not just crossdressing. It's different with the person I'm currently seeing because the excitement we have for each other is pretty strong all the time, for a number of reasons. That's part of the reason I decided to tell her, because it actually seemed like the relationship could maybe have the potential to move forward, yet this "secret" was stopping me from really getting close to this person. She's the first non-CD person that I've told. At the same time, as I begin to be more open about my crossdressing, it becomes less of a forbidden and exciting fantasy and more just another form of self-expression. So yeah, I would say that right now, I'm a lot more attracted to my partner right now than to my crossdressing. But I don't feel like I can be myself if I don't let that other side of me exist and explore.
Some people have said "love is different from attraction." I think that's true, though they are closely linked. I can imagine attraction in the sense of erotic excitement often goes out of or at least diminishes in long-term relationships. I don't know if that will happen to me, I hope not but there's no way to be 100% sure (we do all know that men lose erectile ability, statistically speaking, when they get older, though sex should be about much more than that). In the relationship I happen to be in right now, I do feel a lot of attraction for my partner in that sense, and I don't need dressing (or even thinking about dressing) for that purpose when I'm with my partner. My desire to dress has always been a separate thing for me. I don't think we should deceive ourselves into thinking that sexual desire is always going to be there all the time and in the same automatic way as it may be at one particular time. Sex is something you have to work at, not directly of course, but indirectly, by doing the kinds of things that will provoke the spark with your partner to keep going, if that's what you both want. Anyway, those are some of my thoughts, but I'm still fairly young so what do I know.
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1)
It feels normal and natural and i get great enjoyment from it .
2)
Yes i am completely open and honest about my dressing
3)
It is two completely different feelings, my girl side is an inner peace type of thing whereas my feelings for my wife has to do with my love for her.
So my love for her attracts me to her but my inner peace has nothing to do with being attracted to myself although in a round about way it will attract me to the dressing . (as in the clothes and not me personally)
Last edited by Joanne f; 04-22-2010 at 02:13 PM.
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Joanne
1. Because thats the way I was born. I can ignore 'it'. 'It' cannot ignore me. I'm happy with that.
2 & 3. N/A
[SIZE="1"]1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It feels right, like it was meant to be. No sexual , just feels right.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I told her right after we married. She was very casual about it, stills tolerates.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
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She is my bestest friend on Earth. I'm not in love with Beth, only her.
Oh, how I wish....
There doesn't have to be love or any other emotion linked with attraction. I love my partner, and I am attracted to him, but the two are separate. I love my mother too, but I am not attracted to her. There are guys at work I am attracted to, but I don't love them. I wouldn't mind jumping their bones, but there is no emotion involved in that...ok...maybe lust. Love and attraction are two very separate things and one does not necessarily have to go along with the other.
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