Really good advice, Kieron. I think we do really need to keep in mind that men and women (and everyone else) come in all shapes and sizes. There are no expectations here. In this forum I see a lot of very reasonable people willing to hear you out, even if they disagree. I've only seen a little bit of bucking heads and really people seem to work things out quite civilly. So I think even someone with a "bizarre" gender identity/presentation would feel fairly at home here.
