Do You See A Therapist at Present ?

[sandra-leigh]

My recent visit this week i went as the real me and the receptionist would not let me in at first that felt weird as i did not contemplate the reactions of others,and i went dressed fem to make a point really,and to break some bonds holding me back.

I admit to a bit of surprise, Katie, that you had not gone dressed before.

I go to all my therapy and GP appointments visibly transgenered (forms and stealth clothes at least, skirt or dress preferred.) I look forward to my appointments as an opportunity to wear what I want.

Telling my GP wasn't easy for me, but it improved my quality of life. And it's kinda fun to sit in the waiting room and watch people's reactions

[katieblush]

Hiya Sandra, the reason why i have only preasented in male mode to my therapist before is partly due to me being so wrapped up with others thoughts and feelings,and also having to go to a part of town which i do avoid if i can even in male mode,its full of druggies and not so nice people.

So i am learning all the time,i cannot choose who i preasent to in society,and live in the sort of safe area of the TG couminiety,i have to be out there and experance all of societys treats,this is new to me,as the day times i go out fem have not been that busy.

As for peoples reactions well so far its been ok,i have had a few smirks but nothing as bad as i thought,but that does not say it will not happen i am bound to encounter hassle at some point.

Going to the GPs fem thats next on the list,i feel uncomfertable waiting for a opointment in the waiting area in male mode,so it will be intreasting to see how this goes,seeing how i will be fulltime soon i need to do this to get that ohh so sensitive skin toughend up a bit more.

[suzy1]

The day I need a therapist is the day I give up on life. Like most people I am easily able to run my own life without wasting money on one of them. Must be the man in me.
No offence meant if you go to one. Its just something I feel strongly about.

SUZY

[sandra-leigh]

The day I need a therapist is the day I give up on life.

It was the opposite for me: going to therapy was taking control of my life, actively working to improve it instead of just being "snowed in" by it.

[olga]

The day I need a therapist is the day I give up on life. Like most people I am easily able to run my own life without wasting money on one of them. Must be the man in me.
No offence meant if you go to one. Its just something I feel strongly about.

SUZY

Curious: what makes you think that most people are easily able to run their own life?

[pamela_a]

The day I need a therapist is the day I give up on life. Like most people I am easily able to run my own life without wasting money on one of them. Must be the man in me.
No offence meant if you go to one. Its just something I feel strongly about.

SUZY

Congratulations for being able to know and consider every possiblity without anyone else's input Suzy, although IME you are unique in that regard. IMO most people are like me and learn the most when they finally admit they really don't know everything.

My personal experience is that my therapist was able to ask me the questions I had been afraid to ask myself and helped me understand it was all right to accept the answers that only I could provide. She showed me it was ok to open the door to who I really was but it was up to me to walk through it.

[Stephenie S]

This is the transgender section of this forum, so I assume those who post here are engaged in, or plan to, transition. I have one question.

How in Heaven's name do you plan on getting surgery without a therapists' (two therapists') letter? This is an essential part of the SOC. Do you plan on forging both letters? Or perhaps your surgeon will be SO impressed by your ability to transition WITHOUT therapy that he will waive the requirement.

No matter WHAT your ability to do without therapy, the SOC exist.

Stephie

[olga]

This is the transgender section of this forum, so I assume those who post here are engaged in, or plan to, transition. I have one question.

How in Heaven's name do you plan on getting surgery without a therapists' (two therapists') letter? This is an essential part of the SOC. Do you plan on forging both letters? Or perhaps your surgeon will be SO impressed by your ability to transition WITHOUT therapy that he will waive the requirement.

No matter WHAT your ability to do without therapy, the SOC exist.

Stephie

Stephenie,

Surgery may not be the goal of everybody’s transition… but besides that, I can’t imagine myself making this journey without the help and guidance of a good therapist.

olga

[Stephenie S]

So you say that some are planning to transition to females with penises? An attainable goal, I imagine, but not one that many aspire to in my experience. I know that many do not have the resources available for surgery, although in reality, the cost of SRS is less than that of a new car, and many of us buy a new car on a regular basis. Driving a clunker for a few extra years would make surgery a possibility. It all depends on your priorities, I guess.

Stephie

[Hope]

So you say that some are planning to transition to females with penises? An attainable goal, I imagine, but not one that many aspire to in my experience. I know that many do not have the resources available for surgery, although in reality, the cost of SRS is less than that of a new car, and many of us buy a new car on a regular basis. Driving a clunker for a few extra years would make surgery a possibility. It all depends on your priorities, I guess.

Not everyone needs surgery. LOTS of FTM folks never get bottom surgery. Lots of girls get various degrees of surgery... Some folks have an orchiectomy and call it done, some girls get labiaplasty but not a vaginoplasty, some girls go all the way. VERY few people will ever see what is between your legs. It's cool that you feel like you need to go all the way, but not everyone feels the same way.

Personally, I say get what you need done, but don't do any more. Doing more than you need to be comfortable is foolish and risky.

Doing more does not make a person any more or less trans... or really, any more or less female. A jerk might argue that a girl who gets an orchiectomy and is satisfied is really "inter-sexed" but I know no one here would make such an asinine and hurtful claim.

Gender has WAY more to do with what is in our heads than it does with what is in our panties... which is one of the major reasons it is sooooo important to see a therapist.

[olga]

Gender has WAY more to do with what is in our heads than it does with what is in our panties... which is one of the major reasons it is sooooo important to see a therapist.

Hope,

thanks for getting this thread back on track

olga

[Stephenie S]

Yeah, this WAS about therapy and therapists, not GRS. Unfortunately, or fortunately, (depending on your POV), therapy is a REQUIREMENT for surgery almost everywhere.

And I firmly believe it's a good thing anyway, providing that you can find a good therapist. This is SO important. There are a lot of quacks out there.

[~Emma D~]

I had an appointment to see a counsellor in the UK, 30+ years ago, but due to circumstances at the time, I never kept the appoinment.

A few years later, again when I should have been talking to someone, I didn't and instead locked myself away from the world.

It's only now, over last few months that I've began talking to a counsellor of any kind. I've learnt the hard way that you can't just do it yourself - that simply doesn't work.

IMHO it is imperative that if you think you are TS, you talk to a Therapist/Counsellor sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it, the harder it gets.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

no offense taken suzy...but it is interesting to see how much people on these boards have gotten out of experiences with therapists..

i guess if you don't know anything except what you know, that can be a good thing...but you are missing out on so much...

Ali G to a priest: So are you totally against abortion?
Priest : Yes

AliG to priest: Well, have you ever had an abortion?
Priest: NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AliG to priest: well i always say don't knock it till you try it.