My wife accepts and supports my CDing. She understands that this is just part of me.
That said, I know in the back of her mind she has that fear that one day I'll tell her that I want to transition. I enjoy my CDing but that is as far as I need to take it. I constantly reassure her that I enjoy my male self and would never want to lose that. Now I know I've deepened her worries by raising the level and frequency of my Cding since I've retired. She can't read my mind and of course that's going to increase her concern. I just hope that she trust me enough to believe me when I tell her I have no desire to transition.
How do I reinforce that trust?
By not going behind her back and doing things without her knowledge.
By making sure she always knows she will have her 'guy' to lean on if she needs to.
By going out spending time and having fun as man and wife.
By not making Cding the main focus of our relationship.
All relationships and the personalities in that relationship are different. This works for us. Will I ever completely erase her worries? I don't know. I can't read her mind either. I just hope to bury them under enough trust to make them insignificant.
