This is far too general a topic to adraw conclusions, so I shall speak of myself only. It is also far too easy to confuse empathy with submission. As male, I do not do not seek to rule over my wife (or other GGs), for I do not have that right. That said, I do tend to be a lot more open to her needs and wants. I believe in partnership, and think that CDing is a great leveler in that regard.
My CDing when combined with that great partnership has made me stronger, though. I refuse to submit to those who would put me down for being me. I've been hurt too bad in the past, and the stuff won't happen again, because I have a great ally in my my wife.
The final thing I'll say in all this is that I hate the way CDing is presented by porn purveyors. Whilst I can't accurately quantify it, I feel that there is a out of proportion emphasis on submission there.
Huggles
Toni-Lynn
