It's very simple for me.
Dressing up as a girl for a day or just a few hours, when I want to, and going out with people who understand that that's not "me" is fun.
On the other hand, looking like a girl day in and day out, being referred to by female pronouns day in and day out, expected to do things that girls are expected to do socially, and all that, is traumatic.
I guess I feel the same way about it as I do about physical contact. If I say it's okay first and you don't expect me to keep doing it whenever you get the urge, it's great. Otherwise, NO. Keep your rape-hugs to yourself.
