You are, as many here do, overthinking this situation.
You really have NO business telling her you are a crossdresser this early in a long distance relationship. Keep that fact to yourself until you are MUCH further along in your relationship.
That leaves you with legs and armpits to worry about and I don't see ANY need to explain either to ANYONE other to say you like it.
"Oh, I see you shave your armpits."
"Yeah, I like it."
"Oh, I see you shave your legs, too."
"Yeah, I like it."
Simple, short, and to the point. Not even a faint suggestion that you are a crossdresser.
Stop worrying. Invite this person and have a good time. Keep your CDing in the closet for now. Later on, if things get serious, you can reopen the subject.
Stephie
