Just remember, when/if you do dress for her, make sure that she always looks better than you do.. always!Originally Posted by vivianann
GG's can get pretty jealous when you look better in that skirt than they do!
Just remember, when/if you do dress for her, make sure that she always looks better than you do.. always!
GG's can get pretty jealous when you look better in that skirt than they do!
I hope that it works out friend.
From Madrid to Montreal that underneath it all that Tina prefers pantyhose
Although I appreciate that you're trying to protect a GG's feelings, I've got to say that yes, some of us can admire or perhaps even be envious of parts of our SOs: their legs if they are skinnier than ours, or their nails if they are longer, or their weight if they weigh less than us, or even their clothes and jewelry if they are more expensive or from better designers than the ones we can afford to wear. These are things we would admire in other GGs as well.Just remember, when/if you do dress for her, make sure that she always looks better than you do.. always!
GG's can get pretty jealous when you look better in that skirt than they do!
But ... GGs do know that fundamentally they are the GGs. Trust me, most of us don't feel threatened, especially if we decide to put as much time and effort into our appearance as our SOs.
Reine
I have been on the dating scene for YEARS. After recently attending two very good motivational workshops, life is about taking risk and failing not about hiding and thinking you are being safe. If I ever meet that special woman, coming out will be a high priority!That's wonderful, Vivian ... congratulations!
I am here to tell you all that my girlfriend and I are so in love with each other, and that the relationship has taken on new heights, we spend many hrs a day in conversation and yes crossdressing does come up from time to time, she is willing to learn more about it, and that it will take time to get use to the fact that I crossdress, I am taking it slow and easy with her so she will not get overwhelmed with too much talk about crossdressing. She tells me that she loves me so much that she cannot bear the thought of losing me, I feel the same about her. She is a very sweet lady. and she is quite pretty. There is no way I could be prettier than her, and I would never want to be prettier than her, I just want to be her man. She is not ready to see me enfemme yet, and I am in no hurry to show her until she is ready. I am so greatful that she has stuck with me so far, and that she is willing to learn more about crossdressing, she does appreciate some of the funny stories about my enfemme adventures.
Great news! Sounds like you're handling it well, not going too fast. The fact that you love each other is the most important thing.
It has been a rollercoaster ride with my fiance, concerning the subject of my crossdressing, she is really trying to understand, but the other day when I was in Vegas she heard me walking in heels when I was on the phone with her, it really upset her to the point that she cried, it broke my heart for her, because I did not want to cause her any pain. I am so in love with her that I am love sick.. My fiance found an article about the 11 myths about crossdressing, she emailed the article to me and and asked if the article was true, I read the article and found it to be true, it was well written and thought out, I went over the article with her sentence by sentence, and added my perspective on the subject of crossdressing, it was very helpful to her and helped her to gain a better understanding.
Can you post a link to the article here?
It's so good of you to take the time to address your fiancee's concerns. The learning curve is pretty steep for a GG, and it's important for her to know that she continues to be a priority in your life.
I can't tell you how easy it is for a GG to imagine all kinds of things when there isn't good communication and she is left to fill in the blanks by herself, especially if she's reading posts such as the huge Dating and CDs thread in the M2F.
Reine
I imagine it's this article:
http://crossdresserswife.com/index.p...ressing-facts/
With your spot-on approach to introducing her to your CDing and her love for you, the two of you can't miss! It must be so encouraging just to hear her say she loves you so much that CDing wouldn't put her off. I so hope you two have a long and happy relationship. Congratulations!
I agree with Mirani that you have taken the right kind of risk.It was very nice of you to be honest with her and start the relationship with the honesty.Time heals everything.If she came back to you the next day then definitely she just needs some time to understand your feelings as cd'ing must be new to her.so you should give her some time to think and understand.All the best with everything though.
I think you have been showing her your femside all along.... It is part of what makes her love you!
It was the article that Tricia posted the link to. it was very helpful. Yesterday my fiance told me that she believed in true love all her life, but she was losing faith of ever finding true love or that it might not exist. She then went on to tell me that I restored her faith in true love, because I was the first man to ever show her true love, and because of that she wants to learn and understand my desire to crossdress, and maybe have fun with it, she did say it will be difficult but she is willing to try, because she loves me with all her heart.
Jenny, My fiance told me 30 yrs ago that I had alot of feminine qualities, even though I was trying to hide them when I was in my late teens and early 20's. She saw right through the facade, she knows me well.
Vivianann, I notice that at the start of this discussion, you referred to your "girlfriend" and now you refer to your "fiance". Do we deduce that you told her about your cross-dressing before you got engaged?
Congratulations on your engagement!
I told her before we were engaged, I told her a week into our relationship, we got engaged a month later.
Way to go!
I just came out to my wife last week and was shocked by her reaction. I was so axious about it and when i finally said it she just looked at me. Smiled and said it's just clothing, you can wear what you want. She was so happy I was honest with her. I even put all of my undies in her drawer so we can share lol
Inge
That's exactly the way I felt when I first met my SO too!
Reine
LATEST UPDATE
I took my fiance to Vegas, we went to Glamour Boutique and I bought her a Makeover, While she was getting her makeup done I was getting a MTF makeover. after the makeovers we were introduced to each other by Amy, Kat, and Venesa. Vivian (my Fiance) finally saw me dressed as a woman, her reaction was alot better than I anticipated, she walked up to me and put her arms around my neck and kissed me, and told me I looked pretty, she looked way prettier than I did. After the introduction to my Femme side and our visit with Amy and her girls, we went out on the town as two women, I took her out to dinner, then to Freemont street, then to the big casinos on the strip, like the Belogio, Ceasars Palace, Paris. we watched the fountains at the Belogio twice, she held my hand everywhere we went. it was a wonderful experience for the both of us.
She said she needs more time to get use to me dressed enfemme, and she wants me to be her man when she needs me to be, I told her I would be her man when she needs me to be.
The next time you get together say for an evening at home wear a pair of girl jeans (not skin tight/painted on) and see how she handles it. If she's uptight with it, and you can tell; maybe a good option might be to move on because it could be "to much", for her to ever accept. Her view of a man could be set in stone and how often does stone change? If she does handle it and says it's not as bad as she thought, then a couple of weeks later wear the jeans again and show her the waist band of the panties underneath. I feel this approach will help both of you find the answer.
Literally sounds like the exact same thing I went through last april. Told my girlfriend, she was not happy about it. Expected her to leave, but she's still here. She doesnt understand it and never will I dont think, but she does let me do it on the side.
I dont want to lose her. Love being a man with her, I just like to CD like once a month. No desire to do this full time, so I think that's the only reason she is still here. If she got any sense I wanted to do this more she would be gone in a heartbeat.
Vivian is the love of my life, I will not play any games with her when it comes to crossdressing, such as wearing womens pants or panties or whatever to get a reaction, that is not how I operate, she knows I like to wear dresses, and yes she is still trying to get use to it, and I believe she will get use to it as time goes on, she tells me she wants to understand it better, to me she is trying, and how she treated me the other day and night in Vegas was absolutely wonderful. By dressing in the styles she likes, (which is conservative) she was more receptive, she told me that if I was into club gear mini skirts and such she would not go out wih me dressed like that, and I dont blame her. I truelly believe I have found the most incredible woman a man could have as a wife.
ReineD that is wonderful you felt that way when you first met your SO.
P.S. My fiance and I are getting married on the 23 of October.
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