Quote Originally Posted by clayfish View Post
I do not believe that dressing, per se, is ever the root cause of a divorce.
Always, there are other issues ... the dressing is either the given excuse for the blow-up or merely a contributing factor.
Look elsewhere in your marriage relationship.
Dig deep ... sometimes the root cause is well hidden.
Finally, don't beat yourself up over it. Move on.
I would respectfully disagree with that. Some wives can never tolerate a CD husband. I know from experience. There was plenty of communication on my part, I told my wife prior to getting married and had to quit dressing in order to stay together. I was 21, very much in love, didn't want to hurt her, and didn't know myself well yet, so I agreed to stop dressing. I went cold turkey for a couple years, and finally realized that it wasn't going to work for me. I tried and tried to get her to discuss things to try and work things out, but that was the end. She wanted nothing to do with discussing what I was going through and there was no compromise. I was more than willing to work out a compromise in order to help her deal with her feelings about me being a CD. In the end, she walked, nothing that I could do would have stopped her.

Carol