There have been many discussions here about coming out to wives and girlfriends. Many who have do so have reported that their marriage not only survived, but is stronger than ever. Not just because of the honesty and trust factor, but because crossdressing can inject some excitement in the bedroom and also can help relieve anxiety and stress in the cd (when my SO's happy, I'm happy). Many folks CREDIT crossdressing for a better relationhip.
There's an active thread "Dressing and Divorce" discussing whether dressing is ever the root cause of divorce. Several have said that their marriage ended because of crossdressing. Sure, all marriage have some (probably many) areas of contention (finances, infidelity, religion, etc) that can contribute to or themselves cause a divorce. Repair of broken marriages can and does happen, but sometimes there is something that in itself is a deal-breaker (like infidelity) and the marriage ends. Some of us know that crossdressing was that deal-breaker in our marriage, but in spite of our testimony, others here deny that crossdressing can be the BLAME for a breakup, but only a contributing factor, saying things like "if you dig deeper" or "some day you'll look back and see...". As if they know more about what ended the marriage than the principals. It's denial. Crossdressing is being protected. It must be something else, other causes.
As crossdressers, are we quick to CREDIT crossdressing for good things that happen in our relationships, but slow to BLAME crossdressing for bad? That is my observation.
Your thoughts?
